January is the mid-point of the scholastic year and schools are busy with projects and special programs.  Many facilities are already making preparations for the 2012-2013 scholastic year.  If your family is looking for a preschool or an activity-based school, now’s the time to begin the search.   Even though the task may seem overwhelming at first, the most important thing to do is keep an organized list of the schools you are interested in and the questions you want to ask.  If you’re unsure of where to even start, ask neighbors, friends, and family members who have experience with sending their children to good schools.  They will be the best source of honest feedback regarding which schools to visit and which ones to avoid.

The first factor to consider is the school’s reputation.  Does the school have a welcoming, friendly atmosphere?  Do they offer a nurturing environment as well as a stimulating and comprehensive curriculum?  Schedule a visit at the school and observe the way the teachers and students interact with each other.  Do the students generally seem happy?  If you see lots of smiles and happy faces, that’s an excellent sign.

Chrissy Starr, Director of Shore Ballet in Toms River says this is perhaps the best way to decide if a particular school is right for your child.

“Parents should closely examine how the teachers interact with the children and if they are really enjoying their time there,” says Starr.  “It sounds obvious, but you can really tell if a child is comfortable around certain teachers, so it’s a good idea to go visit the schools to meet the faculty.”

While you are visiting the school, be sure to ask some of the parents their opinions in the parking lot.  Parents with kids currently enrolled in the school will provide you with the best insight about what makes the school tick.

Another important consideration is whether or not the school has proper credentials.  An official license or permit should be proudly displayed in an accessible viewing area for families.  It’s extremely important to make sure the facility is legitimate before you send your child there everyday.  You can also check accreditation information and find answers to all of your early childhood education questions at The National Association for the Education of Young Children website, www.naeyc.org.  There is information for students, teachers, and parents regarding school, resources for learning and appropriate books for the preschool crowd.

The school’s curriculum is equally important to consider during the selection process.  The best preschools have daily allotted time for group and individual activities, crafts, snacks, and reading.  How about time for technology? Does the school have at least a few computers in each classroom and can the kids play educational games throughout the day?  Since technology plays such a pivotal role in today’s fast-paced society, parents are taking this factor into consideration as they engage in the school selection process.  While learning numbers and letters is important, it’s also necessary for little ones to have ample free time.  Preschoolers generally learn better while they are actively involved in play, so it’s important to make sure the preschool administers this philosophy.   Recess or unstructured playtime is also a great way for your child to play independently, away from their parents.  For many children, this is the first time they are away from mom or dad, so it’s interesting to see how they can handle playing with other kids and solving problems or conflicts without parental involvement.  The ultimate goal is for your child to have fun and be excited to tell you about his or her day.

Another factor to consider is the quality of the staff.   Preschool teachers should have at least two years of college, and a background in early-childhood development, CPR training and other emergency training.  It’s equally important for them to be caring, enthusiastic with the children, and prepared for the daily activities.  It should be obvious that the teachers want to be there and they are excited to see the children when they enter the classroom.

Chrissy Starr says it’s also imperative for parents to see how well the school is run from an administrative standpoint.

“Another important thing I would look for is the professionalism of the school and how the directors are running it,” says Starr.  “The teachers and directors are certainly role models for the children. Parents should definitely assess the way the faculty conduct themselves.  For example, are they starting class on time? Are they dressed appropriately?  And, how often is the teacher absent?”

While researching a specific school, be sure to ask questions about the size of the faculty.  The preschool should have a large enough staff to give your child the attention and care he or she needs.   Find out the school’s teacher-child ratio.  Each teacher should not be responsible for more than eight kids at a time.  If the ratio is higher than this, chances are your child will not receive adequate care.

Parents should also give some consideration to the location of the school and transportation.  Exactly how will your child get to school? Will she ride a bus or will you pick her up and drop her off? How far away is the school from your home? These may seem like secondary concerns, but they are very important.  Is it more convenient to have the school located near your place of employment in case of emergencies or is it better for the preschool to be close to where you live?  This may make it easier for your child to foster the friendships he makes in school, thanks to playdates and party invitations.

How about the length of the school day?  In the minds of a preschooler, spending a few hours away from the comforts of home can be like work for many kids, especially for those who have never been in a formal program. Many preschool programs are for a half day or a few hours.  Generally, after even a short amount of time, many children are ready for a break and need some quiet time. Some preschools do offer extended hours. Ask about all the available options and decide which one will work best for your child.

It’s also a good idea to ask questions regarding the school’s policies about some of the following topics: What rules do they have for sick children, immunizations, and routine checkups to prevent the spread of illness?  What procedures are in place for when a grandparent (or someone else) is picking them up at the end of the day? How do they handle things like food allergies, illness, injuries, and other emergencies?  What happens in the event of a fire or an evacuation?  What policies are in place for off-campus field trips? Will there be adequate supervision? Is the method of transportation safe and adequately equipped?

Another important tip is to make sure the school is not in need of any repairs.  Even if they have outstanding teachers and a highly competitive curriculum, none of that matters if the building is unsafe.  Also, ask questions about how the toys and play areas are cleaned on a daily basis.  Are they disinfected every afternoon to avoid the spread of germs?  Find out if the doors are locked during school hours, too.  Do you need to be buzzed into the building?  The building should be secure so that strangers off the street cannot just walk into the school.  Finally, check out the school’s outdoor play area.  Does the equipment look like its new and in good shape?  Is there enough shade for sunny days?

Also, what is the school’s policy about stopping in unannounced for a visit?  It would be great to see what’s going on from time-to-time to make sure your little ones are being properly taken care of.   If the school doesn’t have anything to hide, they should welcome you into their building anytime.

For those parents with special needs children, it’s imperative to ask how the staff can meet your child’s individual needs ahead of time.  If your child has a physical disability or an alternate learning style, will they be able to able to make special accommodations?   If your child has a food allergy, it’s also important to find out the school’s guidelines regarding meals and snacks and what is and isn’t served during classroom parties.  Does the school encourage healthy eating habits?  If not, it would be wise to keep looking for a school that shares your beliefs and values about nutritious foods.

Another factor to consider is communication with the parents.  Chrissy Starr says parents should always have a feel for what is happening within the school environment.

“I think a professional school should have good communication with the parents,” says Starr.  “For example parents should receive advanced notices about special events, closing dates and policies.  This is a great way the school can keep parents “in the know” and this helps the school year run smoothly for students, parents and teachers. Last minute schedule changes and poor information regarding an event that’s going to take place is never a good thing for busy parents.”

Choosing the right school is an important decision for each family to make.  However, it doesn’t have to be a stressful one.  Keep an organized checklist of the schools you’re interested in and write the advantages and disadvantages of each one.  Remember to trust your parental instincts, too and figure out what is right for your child.
No matter what all the experts say, you are your child’s biggest advocate and the best judge of what type of environment he’ll do best it. Think about your child’s personality. Is she shy? Does she make friends quickly? Are you looking for a rigorous academic program or something more socially-based? Ultimately, you as the parent know what is best for your child.  After visiting a few schools, you will have a better feel for which one will best suit your child’s needs.

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Whether you turn on the television, are listening to the radio, or surfing the Internet, it’s hard not to come across the word bullying.  It has become the new buzzword on playgrounds and in schools across the country and is more of a problem than ever before.  The U.S. National Center for Education Statistics suggests that bullying can be classified into two categories: direct bullying, and indirect bullying, which is also known as social aggression.  Bullying behavior may include name calling, verbal or written abuse, exclusion from activities and social situations, physical abuse or coercion.  Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular, tough, or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are being bullied.

Dr. Kum Sung, of Kum Sung Martial Arts in Toms River is extremely upset and concerned about how children are being bullied in today’s society.  With a background in psychology, education, and martial arts, he feels compelled to share his knowledge and experience with parents and children to help them cope with the problem of bullying.  Dr. Sung offers seminars to those who are interested in learning survival skills about how to combat bullying.

“What’s surprising is that people do not really understand the concept of bullying and what it is all about,” says Dr. Sung.  “Whenever I conduct a bullying workshop, the first thing that I do is ask the participants if they can properly define the term bullying.  A bully means abuse- physical, emotional, and mental abuse.  It’s a person who purposely hurts the feelings of others.  They enjoy intimidating and picking on the person who is the weakest.  Someone who receives self gratification from this type of behavior becomes a bully.  They are very weak individuals.”

Once the term is properly defined and examples of bullying are discussed, Dr. Sung provides the public with coping mechanisms and strategies.

“It’s very important to not let the bully know that you are being intimidated,” says Dr. Sung.  “You may feel this way, but never let them see that it bothers you.  This gives the bully power and a sense of control.”

Another way to deal with bullying is by having open communication between parents and children.  Dr. Sung strongly believes that parents need to be aware of what is happening in their children’s lives on a daily basis.  They also must look for warning signs or changes in behavior.

“Parents need to be present in their children’s lives,” says Dr. Sung.  “If a child does not want to go to school anymore or is hesitant about participating in extra-curricular activities, the parents need to find out why and ask the children how they are feeling.  I always stress to parents that they need to get on their level which means sitting on the floor and talking directly to them face-to-face if they have to.  Parents must have an overall awareness of everything that is occurring in their children’s lives.  Open dialogue allows the parent and child to work together to find a solution to the problem.”

According to the website stopbullying.gov, there are various warning signs that parents must look for.  Some of these include: suddenly has fewer friends, has trouble sleeping or frequent bad dreams, are hungry after school from not eating their lunch, comes home with damaged or missing clothing or other belongings, loses interest in school work or begins to do poorly in school, appears sad or moody when they come home from school, blames themselves for their problems, often feels like they are not good enough, avoids certain places, and acts different than usual.

These days, bullying is not just a physical, face-to-face problem.  A new term, “cyberbullying” involves the transmission of embarrassing and hurtful messages via text or online.  The Cyberbullying Research Center (cyberbullying.us) is dedicated to providing up-to-date information about the nature, extent, causes, and consequences of cyberbullying among adolescents.  Cyberbullying can be defined as “willful and repeated harm inflicted through the use of computers, cell phones, and other electronic devices.”   The comprehensive website also includes information about the following topics: State Cyberbullying Laws and Policies, notices of events, information about research and publications, and a chance for victims to share their stories.  In addition, website users can also sign up for periodic updates via email about what is being done to control cyberbullying.

As children use today’s technology, it’s important for parents to keep the computer in a public place, such as the family room to best keep track of children’s online activities.  This simple step may reduce the risk that they will become victims of electronic aggression or commit it themselves.  In addition, it’s also imperative to talk with your child about what he or she is doing online and discuss expectations for what is considered appropriate online behavior.  Also, consider installing software that lets you control or track your child’s online activity.

Dr. Sung says cyberbullying is just as much of a problem as direct, person-to-person bullying which happens at school or throughout the neighborhood.

“Children are sitting at the computer, reading the hurtful messages and are feeling the same type of fear,” says Dr. Sung.  “Then, they start responding to it and it becomes a continual problem.”

Whether it’s in the lunchroom at school or on a laptop computer, children are being bullied.  Just how should parents and children properly deal with the problem?  Dr. Sung says that some parents feel that if their children confront the bully and then fight back, then the situation will be resolved.  However, that is not the way to deal with bullying.

“Many people feel that the only way a bully can re-gain power is to physically retaliate,” says Dr. Sung.  “Hitting back doesn’t solve the problem about bullying.  Two wrongs do not make a right.  The way to deal with bullying is to develop self-confidence.  Once this confidence is established, a person can overcome difficult situations and deal with fears.  Everything in life is about education and understanding.  There is fear of the unknown, but once you recognize it, you are not afraid anymore and learn to overcome it.  Once you have the right mindset, you can overcome anything.  I teach how to develop your internal power and internal strength.”

Dr. Sung helps people to overcome this fear through his teaching of the martial arts.  The benefits of participating in the martial arts include developing discipline and coordination, improving one’s self-esteem, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

“Martial arts is not meant to hurt or disrespect others,” says Dr. Sung who has studied a variety of martial arts forms ranging from Chinese to Japanese style for over 50 years.  “The Master Kum Sung Martial Arts System is a balanced system of traditional martial arts blended with modern techniques, ancient philosophies, and modern psychology.   A strong emphasis is placed on positive thinking.  Students in the Kum Sung program are encouraged to do their very best, to see rewards in life, and to overcome negative thoughts and actions.”

Designed to accommodate students of all levels and ages, this unique system emphasizes self-defense, positive-reinforcement psychology, physical fitness, and coordination.   Dr. Sung strongly believes that students of the Master Kum Sung Martial Arts System will develop not only into well-rounded martial artists, but secure, positive, self-confident, and emotionally and physically fit people.

What sets Kum Sung apart from other martial arts studios is that the instructors genuinely care about the students’ mental health.  Once parents decide to enroll their children in a martial arts program, Dr. Sung says there are many benefits.   In addition to improving a child’s physical health, Dr. Sung says the instructors work to support the children in creating a positive way of thinking.

“So many parents are working full-time today, and are not home during the after-school hours,” says Dr. Sung, who has been featured on the cover of many national and international Martial Art magazines and has been the subject of several award winning photographs at national exhibitions.  “When the children are home alone, there is no social communication with the child.  The child needs to have constant attention and someone needs to be aware of their behavior.  We are able to provide that for the children.  We are educating them emotionally.  With this type of background, they will then have the confidence to become healthy and successful adults.”

During class sessions, children are also encouraged to talk about whatever is on their minds.  Kum Sung believes in open communication and wants children to feel comfortable opening up to the instructors about whatever may be bothering them.

“Every class has time allowed for kids to discuss their feelings and what they like or don’t like,” says Dr. Sung who is certified by the World Tae Kwon Do Federation, which determines Olympic eligibility in the United States.  “We have one-on-one relationships with all of the children.  We also help children who may be experiencing behavior problems and are out of control with their parents or at school.  Some of the children battle with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), so we get a lot of referrals from doctors who are looking to us as a way to help the children gain some control and focus.”

Kum Sung has various locations throughout Monmouth and Ocean counties.  Kum Sung Headquarters are located on Hooper Avenue in Toms River.  The facility includes an 8,000 square foot Martial Arts Center, which has more than 600 members, and a 16,000 square foot complete Fitness Center, which has more than 3,000 members.  There are also facilities in Brick, Manahawkin, Long Branch, Howell, Lanoka Harbor, and Middletown. Their comprehensive website, kumsungkarate.com, includes information about future events, martial arts instructors, birthday parties, special offers, and Kum Sung’s summer camp.  Your family can also make an appointment online to take a tour of one of the facilities and to meet the instructors in person.  The website also offers videos of martial arts classes online and many photographs of students in action.

In addition to martial arts, the family also runs Sung Star Academy which is for children ages six weeks to five-years-old.  There are state certified teachers in every classroom with registered nurses on staff to take care of your little ones, if necessary.  The directors of the school all have the highest degrees of education.  If you are interested in learning more about Kum Sung Karate, or would like Dr. Sung to present a workshop about bullying to your organization, call 732-341-8800, or visit their website at kumsungkarate.com.  You can even send your questions via email at info@kumsungkarate.com.

Kiddie Academy of Brick demonstrates our mission through the implementation of Life Essentials: Kiddie Academy’s educational philosophy as well as our curriculum and supporting programs, methods, activities and techniques that help prepare children for life.

Kiddie Academy’s Life Essentials philosophy is based on four pillars of education:

•developmentally appropriate

educational practices

•character education

•technology education

•health and fitness

Through Life Essentials, Kiddie Academy teachers are able to support each child through critical stages of cognitive, social, emotional and physical development.

Kiddie Academy is proud of our academic program and we understand the importance of preparing children to be lifelong learners. We also realize that early childhood education is more than academics. As leaders in early childhood education, we are preparing children to be compassionate members of their communities, encouraging children to develop healthy and active lifestyles and keeping current on trends in early childhood education and technology.

Early childhood is a crucial time for children’s cognitive development.  Many parents enroll their child in preschool, with expectations of a curriculum that will prepare their child for future academic and life success.  Often, the process of selecting the appropriate pre-school program can be stressful and many parents aren’t sure where to begin.

An important first step for parents is to know what they want for their child in a preschool experience. Whether the goal is socialization with their peers or a learning environment with a high-quality educational curriculum, establishing this from the beginning makes the process of searching for and choosing a preschool much easier.

Kiddie Academy recommends the following tips for parents enrolling their child in preschool:

1.Start early. Begin researching programs in September the year before your child would begin preschool. This will give you time to assess different options so that you are able to make an informed decision on where to send your child without feeling rushed. Keep in mind that most programs have open houses and enrollment periods from January to March.

2.Establish your “must-have” list. For example, does the school have online webcam viewing? Does the school offer a hot meal; is it cooked onsite in a certified commercial kitchen, or is it catered by Who-Knows-Who?  Is there an indoor playground?  Do they have a state of the art soft surfacing playground?  Are the teachers established professionals, or inexperienced young kids?  Is there a high staff turnover?

3.Tour, tour, tour! It is important to do your legwork and know all of the pros and cons for each school you are considering. Don’t forget to consider overall cleanliness, bathroom cleanliness, and hygienic measures. Look beyond your traditional preschool options and also consider programs with educational child care centers. Give yourself ample time to visit different programs.

4.Request referrals. Ask other parents and friends about their preschool experience to get an idea of what other people are saying.

As children walk across the red carpet, and then through the doors of iPlay America, they’re not sure what to gaze their eyes upon first in this massive new indoor amusement park.  Rides, games of chance and tons of tempting foods all capture their full attention in this family playground where the city meets the boardwalk.  Located at 110 Schanck Road in Freehold, the 115,000 square foot climate-controlled entertainment center hosts nine indoor rides, exciting attractions, over 200 arcade games, party rooms, a candy shop, various eateries and a full-service café.  With so much to offer, there is something to please everyone in the family, from the little ones to the older kids in your group.

Marcy Edwards, Director of Marketing and Promotions, says local families have been excited to check out this new place to play.

“We opened on November 11, 2011 at 11:11 am to an unbelievably huge crowd,” says Edwards. “Schools were not in session that day because of the New Jersey Teachers’ Convention, so we had lots of kids who were looking for a new way to have fun during their vacation.  We really wanted to celebrate our grand opening in a significant way so we created a festival-type atmosphere which included an official ribbon cutting ceremony, tons of promotions, entertainment, face painters and live music.  What makes our park unique is that families can have fun with each other, no matter what the weather is.”

It doesn’t matter if it’s raining, snowing, too hot or too cold.  iPlay America is open year-round which means that it’s not just a place to hang out and spend a few hours on the weekends.  Since it’s open every day, families have the option of making traditional weeks filled with work and school responsibilities a little more exciting.

“We open right after school and offer families lower prices, Monday through Thursday,” says Edwards.  “Now local families can mix it up a little bit during the week.  It’s a great choice for parents who want to give their kids a reward for achieving a goal in the classroom or on the athletic field; or who maybe just want to make the average Tuesday a little more special.”

To get the fun started, participants can select one of the extra-value deals, which start at $14.95, or they can purchase an iPA card which is then loaded with value that can be used at all games, rides, attractions, eateries and stores.  Players earn iPoints for every dollar loaded onto their iPA card. As more points are accumulated, a player will be upgraded to Ultra and Elite status which offers discounts as well as access to exclusive events, offers and prizes.  Players can register their cards or check their iPoints at admissions, the information booth, concierge, at an in-park charging station or online.  The extra-value package deals include unlimited rides and attractions as well as food and fun deals.  For those who would simply rather watch the kids have a blast, general admission is $5.00 which provides access to the park as well as a $5 iPA card, which can be used throughout the park towards concessions, games, rides, or attractions. This is ideal for parents and guardians who would like to accompany their children into the facility.  At any time, guests can add value to their cards or check to see how many points or tickets have been accumulated at special kiosks throughout the park.  Even after visiting iPlay America, it’s important to register and save to accumulate points and use again during another trip.  Having the card will provide perks such as free play days at the arcade, exclusive events and special days when guests can earn double points.

Two of the park’s most popular attractions are the 4-D Theater and the IPA Speedway.  Edwards says that both of these activities have been well received by the public.

“Our 4-D Theater is a fully immersive experience for guests,” says Edwards.  “Currently, we are showing a movie titled ‘Snow Day’ which features snow falling on guests and leg ticklers to make you feel as if it’s really snowing.  You truly feel like you are a part of the movie.  The IPA Speedway is a controlled way to make guests feel as if they are really in a NASCAR race.  We have state-of-the-art cars, LED headlights and surround sound to make it feel authentic.”

On a recent trip to iPlay America with my husband and twin seven-year-old daughters, the racetrack was one of their favorite attractions.  Since they are under 10 years of age, they each needed to have one of us drive the car, but they still found the ride to be extremely exciting, especially when we pressed the “turbo boost” button which allowed us to go even faster.   This was quite a thrill for both of them!

“I liked the race cars the best because you could go really fast and pass other cars,” says Chelsea.  “The announcer made me feel like I was in a real race.”

The Spin Zone Bumper Cars was another of the girls’ favorite rides. Spin Zone features music and a sparkling lightshow within the bumper car arena.

“I really liked the bumper cars because I could move it myself, spin around and bump into people,” says Chloe.  “There was music too, which made it fun.  I also liked the Skyscraper ride because it went up high and you could feel the wind in your hair.  The arcade is also very cool because it has games that both boys and girls would like.”

The arcade is the heart of the facility and features games of chance such as Wheel of Fortune, Deal or No Deal, The Price is Right, and Skeeball.  What’s great is that instead of the machines printing out tickets and then redeeming those at a prize center, all points are accumulated on a guest’s iCard.  There are many currently popular and hi-tech prizes throughout the arcade, including an iPod Touch, Coach handbags, a Playstation 3, and a Samsung LCD flat panel TV.

With so many activities to choose from, iPlay America is the perfect place to host your child’s next birthday party.  A party representative takes care of everything and walks the kids through the park, giving them an opportunity to experience all of the attractions.

“We can customize the event to be whatever experience the birthday child is looking for and can accommodate numerous themes,” says Edwards.  “Each party room features an iPod dock which allows the party hosts to play whatever music they would like and adjust the volume, too.  The rooms also have LED flashing lights.  It can be as sophisticated or kid-friendly as you like.  We host all types of parties, not just for children.  In fact, we even hosted a 65^th birthday party.  The guest wanted a place where all of his grandchildren could have fun together so he decided this would be the best place.”

After spending time on the rides and playing a few games, kids usually get hungry.  iPlay America offers several ways to refuel, whether with a quick snack or with a more relaxing meal.

The City Square Grill is a casual sit-down restaurant serving contemporary fare, from specialty salads and fresh pizzas to gourmet classics like lobster macaroni and cheese.   You can take the kids or, if you have older ones, relax here while they are off having fun with their friends.

“One couple told me that they enjoyed a great date night together at the City Square Grill,” says Edwards.  “While they relaxed and had a nice meal together, the kids were having a good time, enjoying their independence and the parents felt secure that they were safe inside the park.”

If you’re just looking for a quick bite, stop at the City Square Grill Express which offers convenient grab-and-go service.  It features fresh salads, sandwiches, pizzas, desserts and a selection of specialty beverages.  Another option is Sonny’s Boardwalk Grill.  Even if the temperatures are frigid and there’s snow on the ground, you can still enjoy the smells and tastes of authentic Jersey-Shore style snacks like hot dogs, fries, funnel cake and other refreshments.  For dessert, head over to Mixx, a modern, self-service frozen yogurt shop featuring soft-serve, low-fat frozen yogurt and a huge selection of toppings like cookie crumbs, fresh fruit and an assortment of candies to name a few.  Mixx also features espresso, cappuccino, hot cocoa and cookies. Or, check out Broadway Sweets, a unique candy shop which provides guests an opportunity to mix and match their favorite treats.

As for making sure things run smoothly throughout the park, iPlay America has that covered, too.  Edwards says parents will notice a mature security presence as they walk around the attractions with their children.

“We have a security staff which sets us apart from other facilities,” says Edwards.  “They patrol the facility 24 hours a day, seven days a week.  We also take proactive measures such as stamping parents and young children with matching UV stamps, which are checked before families leave.”

In addition to the theme park being well-patrolled and safe, it is also extremely clean.  Staff members constantly walk around the park to pick up any debris or trash and also to sanitize and disinfect games and attractions.

Another perk of iPlay America is the number of benches, tables, and places to sit along the way for those families who need to take a break and re-charge for a few minutes.  The ample seating located throughout the park also provides a great place for parents to sit while their kids are hanging out with friends.  This is a great way for ‘tweens and teens to have some independence while their parents have the peace of mind knowing that the kids are safe inside.

iPlay America in Freehold is a new place for families to play and spend some quality time together.  For more information about this indoor entertainment complex, check out for their website at iplayamerica.com or give them a call at 732-577-8200.

Whether you turn on the television, are listening to the radio, or surfing the Internet, it’s hard not to come across the word bullying.  It has become the new buzzword on playgrounds and in schools across the country and is more of a problem than ever before.  The U.S. National Center for Education Statistics suggests that bullying can be classified into two categories: direct bullying, and indirect bullying, which is also known as social aggression.  Bullying behavior may include name calling, verbal or written abuse, exclusion from activities and social situations, physical abuse or coercion.  Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular, tough, or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are being bullied.

Dr. Kum Sung, of Kum Sung Martial Arts in Toms River is extremely upset and concerned about how children are being bullied in today’s society.  With a background in psychology, education, and martial arts, he feels compelled to share his knowledge and experience with parents and children to help them cope with the problem of bullying.  Dr. Sung offers seminars to those who are interested in learning survival skills about how to combat bullying.

“What’s surprising is that people do not really understand the concept of bullying and what it is all about,” says Dr. Sung.  “Whenever I conduct a bullying workshop, the first thing that I do is ask the participants if they can properly define the term bullying.  A bully means abuse- physical, emotional, and mental abuse.  It’s a person who purposely hurts the feelings of others.  They enjoy intimidating and picking on the person who is the weakest.  Someone who receives self gratification from this type of behavior becomes a bully.  They are very weak individuals.”

Once the term is properly defined and examples of bullying are discussed, Dr. Sung provides the public with coping mechanisms and strategies.

“It’s very important to not let the bully know that you are being intimidated,” says Dr. Sung.  “You may feel this way, but never let them see that it bothers you.  This gives the bully power and a sense of control.”

Another way to deal with bullying is by having open communication between parents and children.  Dr. Sung strongly believes that parents need to be aware of what is happening in their children’s lives on a daily basis.  They also must look for warning signs or changes in behavior.

“Parents need to be present in their children’s lives,” says Dr. Sung.  “If a child does not want to go to school anymore or is hesitant about participating in extra-curricular activities, the parents need to find out why and ask the children how they are feeling.  I always stress to parents that they need to get on their level which means sitting on the floor and talking directly to them face-to-face if they have to.  Parents must have an overall awareness of everything that is occurring in their children’s lives.  Open dialogue allows the parent and child to work together to find a solution to the problem.”

According to the website stopbullying.gov, there are various warning signs that parents must look for.  Some of these include: suddenly has fewer friends, has trouble sleeping or frequent bad dreams, are hungry after school from not eating their lunch, comes home with damaged or missing clothing or other belongings, loses interest in school work or begins to do poorly in school, appears sad or moody when they come home from school, blames themselves for their problems, often feels like they are not good enough, avoids certain places, and acts different than usual.

These days, bullying is not just a physical, face-to-face problem.  A new term, “cyberbullying” involves the transmission of embarrassing and hurtful messages via text or online.  The Cyberbullying Research Center (cyberbullying.us) is dedicated to providing up-to-date information about the nature, extent, causes, and consequences of cyberbullying among adolescents.  Cyberbullying can be defined as “willful and repeated harm inflicted through the use of computers, cell phones, and other electronic devices.”   The comprehensive website also includes information about the following topics: State Cyberbullying Laws and Policies, notices of events, information about research and publications, and a chance for victims to share their stories.  In addition, website users can also sign up for periodic updates via email about what is being done to control cyberbullying.

As children use today’s technology, it’s important for parents to keep the computer in a public place, such as the family room to best keep track of children’s online activities.  This simple step may reduce the risk that they will become victims of electronic aggression or commit it themselves.  In addition, it’s also imperative to talk with your child about what he or she is doing online and discuss expectations for what is considered appropriate online behavior.  Also, consider installing software that lets you control or track your child’s online activity.

Dr. Sung says cyberbullying is just as much of a problem as direct, person-to-person bullying which happens at school or throughout the neighborhood.

“Children are sitting at the computer, reading the hurtful messages and are feeling the same type of fear,” says Dr. Sung.  “Then, they start responding to it and it becomes a continual problem.”

Whether it’s in the lunchroom at school or on a laptop computer, children are being bullied.  Just how should parents and children properly deal with the problem?  Dr. Sung says that some parents feel that if their children confront the bully and then fight back, then the situation will be resolved.  However, that is not the way to deal with bullying.

“Many people feel that the only way a bully can re-gain power is to physically retaliate,” says Dr. Sung.  “Hitting back doesn’t solve the problem about bullying.  Two wrongs do not make a right.  The way to deal with bullying is to develop self-confidence.  Once this confidence is established, a person can overcome difficult situations and deal with fears.  Everything in life is about education and understanding.  There is fear of the unknown, but once you recognize it, you are not afraid anymore and learn to overcome it.  Once you have the right mindset, you can overcome anything.  I teach how to develop your internal power and internal strength.”

Dr. Sung helps people to overcome this fear through his teaching of the martial arts.  The benefits of participating in the martial arts include developing discipline and coordination, improving one’s self-esteem, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

“Martial arts is not meant to hurt or disrespect others,” says Dr. Sung who has studied a variety of martial arts forms ranging from Chinese to Japanese style for over 50 years.  “The Master Kum Sung Martial Arts System is a balanced system of traditional martial arts blended with modern techniques, ancient philosophies, and modern psychology.   A strong emphasis is placed on positive thinking.  Students in the Kum Sung program are encouraged to do their very best, to see rewards in life, and to overcome negative thoughts and actions.”

Designed to accommodate students of all levels and ages, this unique system emphasizes self-defense, positive-reinforcement psychology, physical fitness, and coordination.   Dr. Sung strongly believes that students of the Master Kum Sung Martial Arts System will develop not only into well-rounded martial artists, but secure, positive, self-confident, and emotionally and physically fit people.

What sets Kum Sung apart from other martial arts studios is that the instructors genuinely care about the students’ mental health.  Once parents decide to enroll their children in a martial arts program, Dr. Sung says there are many benefits.   In addition to improving a child’s physical health, Dr. Sung says the instructors work to support the children in creating a positive way of thinking.

“So many parents are working full-time today, and are not home during the after-school hours,” says Dr. Sung, who has been featured on the cover of many national and international Martial Art magazines and has been the subject of several award winning photographs at national exhibitions.  “When the children are home alone, there is no social communication with the child.  The child needs to have constant attention and someone needs to be aware of their behavior.  We are able to provide that for the children.  We are educating them emotionally.  With this type of background, they will then have the confidence to become healthy and successful adults.”

During class sessions, children are also encouraged to talk about whatever is on their minds.  Kum Sung believes in open communication and wants children to feel comfortable opening up to the instructors about whatever may be bothering them.

“Every class has time allowed for kids to discuss their feelings and what they like or don’t like,” says Dr. Sung who is certified by the World Tae Kwon Do Federation, which determines Olympic eligibility in the United States.  “We have one-on-one relationships with all of the children.  We also help children who may be experiencing behavior problems and are out of control with their parents or at school.  Some of the children battle with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), so we get a lot of referrals from doctors who are looking to us as a way to help the children gain some control and focus.”

Kum Sung has various locations throughout Monmouth and Ocean counties.  Kum Sung Headquarters are located on Hooper Avenue in Toms River.  The facility includes an 8,000 square foot Martial Arts Center, which has more than 600 members, and a 16,000 square foot complete Fitness Center, which has more than 3,000 members.  There are also facilities in Brick, Manahawkin, Long Branch, Howell, Lanoka Harbor, and Middletown. Their comprehensive website, kumsungkarate.com, includes information about future events, martial arts instructors, birthday parties, special offers, and Kum Sung’s summer camp.  Your family can also make an appointment online to take a tour of one of the facilities and to meet the instructors in person.  The website also offers videos of martial arts classes online and many photographs of students in action.

In addition to martial arts, the family also runs Sung Star Academy which is for children ages six weeks to five-years-old.  There are state certified teachers in every classroom with registered nurses on staff to take care of your little ones, if necessary.  The directors of the school all have the highest degrees of education.  If you are interested in learning more about Kum Sung Karate, or would like Dr. Sung to present a workshop about bullying to your organization, call 732-341-8800, or visit their website at kumsungkarate.com.  You can even send your questions via email at info@kumsungkarate.com.

Your Child Today has chosen the Torres Family of Toms River as the “Focus on the Family.”   Frank and Kelly have been happily married for ten years and have two children, Arliana and Frankie.  College sweethearts, the couple met while attending Montclair State University.  During the early years of their marriage, they lived in North Jersey, but then moved to Toms River in the summer of 2010 to be closer to family.

“We were spending every holiday down the shore and it was hard to do so much traveling, especially once the kids came along,” says Kelly.  “Now, we are closer to everyone which is great because if we need help with the children, we have a support system.  And now, many of my aunts and uncles have decided to move to this area so there are even more relatives to visit with which is wonderful.”

Before she gave birth to Arliana, Kelly worked as a second grade teacher and has since worked part-time as a preschool teacher.  She is now home with the children and looking for her next teaching opportunity.  Frank works hard as a corporate recruiter. Although the weeks may be hectic with school, work, and extra-curricular activities, the family enjoys spending quality time with each other on the weekends in the pool, playing in the backyard, or taking day trips throughout the Jersey Shore.

Your Child Today recently had the pleasure of speaking to the Torres Family and this is what they had to say:

YCT: Tell us a little about your children.

Kelly: Arliana is six-years-old and is in first grade. This is her first year in full day school and she really loves it.  She is a very outgoing, loving child and she loves to play with friends.  Arliana is very independent and has been since she was a toddler. She loves mermaids and doing crafts.  She just learned how to ride a bike without the training wheels and wants to ride every chance she gets. This will be her second year playing soccer and she loves it!  Arliana is taking a hip hop dance class this year and is really enjoying it.  Her favorite part of the class is dancing to the songs she likes on the radio.  In addition, Arliana is involved with the Girl Scouts.  This is her second year as a Daisy Scout.  She enjoys attending the meetings and participating in activities to earn her petals.

Frankie is three-years-old and attends Westminister Nursery School.  This is Frankie’s first time in school and he loves to go.  He really likes his teachers and loves to play with his friends there.  Frankie attends speech therapy once a week at Pediatric Rehabilitation Services in Brick.  Sometimes Frankie leaves off middle and end syllables in his words.  His speech therapist, Miss Alicia, is very helpful and Frankie is making great progress. Frankie is very affectionate and loving. He is extremely energetic and loves to run and play.  He has always been fascinated with balls and loves to play any type of sport.  He also likes to play cars and ride his bike.

YCT: What is a typical day like in your home?

Kelly: A typical day in our home begins with the children waking up and having breakfast.  We then get ready for school by getting dressed, brushing hair and teeth and going to the bus stop where we chat with the neighbors before the bus arrives.  Our neighborhood is great because we all look out for each other’s kids and if someone cannot make it to the bust stop after school, we will watch the kids for that mom.  I really love the support system that we have in our community.  After Arliana leaves for school, some days Frankie and I run errands or we have playdates with friends.  Frankie has school Tuesday and Thursday afternoons.  After Arliana and Frankie are both home from school we have a snack and do homework.  Then, we are off to extracurricular activities.  When we return we have dinner together, the kids play a little more, and then it’s time for baths and bedtime. After the children are in bed, Frank and I enjoy watching television together.  It’s a chance for us to spend some time alone together. The days when there are no activities we usually play with neighborhood friends.  Our first choice is to play outside, but if the weather isn’t good, we will have friends over to play inside.  Fridays we have “Family Game Night” and we usually eat breakfast food for dinner.  The kids really love it!

YCT: What activities do your children participate in after school?

Kelly: On Mondays, Arliana takes a hip hop dance class at Shore Ballet.  On Wednesdays, Frankie has speech and Arliana has Girl Scouts.  I am the troop leader which I enjoy.  I love planning all of the activities for the girls so they can earn their petals. On Thursday afternoons, Arliana has a religious education class at St. Luke’s Church.  Finally, Saturday is soccer day!

YCT: What is your favorite thing to do locally with your family?

Kelly: We moved to the Toms River area a little over a year ago and have really enjoyed discovering all the fun activities to do in this area.  In the summer we go to the beach and boardwalk.  Frank loves to take the kids crabbing.  We like to visit Castle Park, Riverwood Park, and the Popcorn Zoo.  We also enjoy planning day trips. We have season passes at Great Adventure and the kids love to go on the rides and drive through the safari.  Now that we live closer to the beach and all of the shore attractions, we appreciate the convenience of heading to the boardwalk in the evenings for a few rides after dinner or taking the kids for an ice cream.  Our family up north also enjoys the area and came to stay with us often over the summer.  Everyone wanted to see our new house and get in some beach days.  We entertained a lot which was great because it allowed us to visitwith relatives.

YCT:  Do you have any favorite local vacation spots?

Kelly: Every year our entire family goes to Wildwood Crest for a week.  We absolutely love it!  It’s great that our kids get to spend a week at the beach with all of their cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents.  We stay in a hotel and reserve ten rooms right next to one another. This way, the kids can play and everyone can visit.  I was lucky enough to vacation with my extended family in Wildwood when I was little, and now my children have the same opportunity.  It’s such a wonderful experience and we look forward to it every year.

YCT: Have you ever gone on any vacations without the kids and where?

Kelly: We have gone away for overnight trips to Atlantic City and New York and grandma has babysat for us.

YCT: What is your favorite date night location and how often do you get to go out alone with your husband?

Kelly: We enjoy going out to eat and to the movies when we have a date night.  A few of our favorite places are Bonefish Grill, Spicy Cantina, and Boston’s. We try to have a date night at least once a month.  We are very fortunate to have my husband’s mother and relatives close by who are very helpful which allows us to get a little time to go out alone together.

YCT: What is your favorite non-mommy thing to do and how often do you get to do it?

Kelly: I enjoy reading and have a book club that I attend with a few friends.  We meet about once a month and always choose a theme to go along with what we are reading.    We really enjoy getting together and discussing the books we read.  It also gives you the chance to read books you normally wouldn’t read.  Usually, we will discuss the book for about 40 minutes and then we will chat about our loves, the kids and what has been happening.  I also enjoy exercising and getting to spend time with my friends.  Every year during the weekend of teacher’s convention in November my girlfriends and I plan an overnight trip to Atlantic City.  I am looking forward to it this year!

YCT: What is your husband’s favorite non-Daddy thing to do?

Kelly: Frank enjoys watching sports and attending sporting events.  He loves the New York Giants and the Mets.  He enjoys watching the games with his friends and his brother who he is very close to.  He also enjoys staying home and enjoying our yard and pool.

YCT: Do you frequent any advertisers from our magazine?

Kelly: My daughter attends Shore Ballet.  She loves going there and Miss Star is an amazing teacher.  Last year with Girl Scouts, the girls decided to use their money earned from cookie sales to visit Sparkle Diva Salon and they had a blast!  They loved getting their hair and nails done and drinking juice out of fancy glasses.  Since we visited during the evening, the girls decided not to touch their hair when they went home and wore it fancy the next day to school! We enjoy going to Color Me Mine and Jenkinson’s Aquarium.  Of course, we enjoy the beach and boardwalk at Jenkinson’s, too!  We also love sailing with Jersey Shore Pirates.  We have gone a few times and both of my children enjoyed it.   Their favorite part was pulling the treasure chest out of the water onto the pirate ship.  The staff does such a great job with the kids because they make the experience so realistic.  During the trip, you actually feel like you’re on a real pirate ship.

YCT: Do you have any parenting advice that you would like to offer our readers?

Kelly: Parenting can be challenging but children really do grow so fast!  I try to really enjoy it and have fun with my children because I know that when they get older I will really miss these days!

YCT: What is your favorite part of Your Child Today magazine?

Kelly: I always look forward to reading about the local activities for children and I enjoy the Focus on the Family to hear other family’s stories.

CELEBRATE CHILDREN’S DENTAL HEALTH MONTH !

By Dr. Elisa Velazquez

(Children’s Dental Health Chairperson -Monmouth Ocean County Dental Society)

February is National Children’s Dental Health Awareness Month.  Each February, since 1949, the American Dental AssociatiFebruary is National Children’s Dental Health Awareness Month.  Each February, since 1949, the American Dental Association (ADA) has sponsored National Children’s Dental Health Month to raise awareness about the importance of oral health.  The Monmouth-Ocean County Dental Society and many of its members want to help in this mission.

There is a dental health fair  on Sunday,  February 12th.  This event is sponsored by the Monmouth-Ocean County Dental Society.  (www.M-OCDS.org)  We have prizes, give-aways, a magician & several local dentists, orthodontists, and pediatric dentists to answer any questions.  The Stafford Police Department is participating and will fabricate digital ID cards for children that participate.  Teachers & nurses from every school were invited to have their students participate in a poster contest.  The theme for 2012 is ROCK YOUR SMILE!  Winners of the sponsored poster contest for grade school children will receive their prizes at the dental fair.  This event has been a HUGE success in the past, and we look forward to another great day.  If you would like to have your class or child participate- please see the rules on our website.

A second event is  GIVE KIDS A SMILE DAY (GKAS) when  many dental offices and clinics throughout the country are offering a day of FREE dental care for children under 12 .  This day is Friday, February 3, 2012.  This event targets children who otherwise do not have access to dental care.  Visit NJDA.org/GKAS for all locations in New Jersey.  This year marks the 10th annual day of free dental care in NJ.

Many Monmouth & Ocean County dentists volunteer and provide free dental care.  The doctors of Ocean Pediatric Dental Associates are volunteering in Give Kids A Smile Day for the 5th consecutive year in their Toms River location..  We have treated over 400 children for free and provided services such as cleanings, X-rays, and extractions.    We want to educate families about the importance of the prevention of decay.  We will provide dental exams, cleanings and necessary urgent care for children in need AT NO COST.   Many children live each day with dental disease resulting in pain & infection.  Dental pain prevents children from concentrating & learning in school and results in missed school days.  In the current economic climate, many families push health care to the back burner.  Give Kids a Smile Day is our opportunity to help our community.   Every child deserves to live pain free and should be examined by a qualified dentist.  We want to educate families about prevention and diagnose any problems that are present.  Find a location near you to schedule your child.

DENTAL FACTS

*The ADA recommends that children be seen by a dentist at AGE 1

*Cavities are a bacterial infection  & Cavities can be prevented!

*Tooth decay is the most common chronic childhood disease

*Tooth decay is dramatically on the rise for children ages 0-5 years old

Visit www.oceanpediatricdental.com or www.M-OCDS.org for information

FREE DENTAL FAIR!

PRIZES! FREE STUFF!

Sunday Feb 12,2012

1-3 pm

Ocean County Mall

No matter where she goes, she frequently hears the same comment from strangers in passing.

“Oh my, that woman sure does have her hands full!”

However, Honoree Brown wouldn’t have it any other way.  The mother of four couldn’t imagine her life without the little ones keeping her busy.

“I love my family and all the work that goes with it,” says Honoree.  “Although a break every now and then is nice though!”

Honoree and her husband Thomas are not originally from New Jersey, but have grown to really like the Jersey Shore area and all that it offers for families. The couple moved here from Oregon about 10 years ago and started Point Pleasant Parasail.  Then the children started to arrive one-by-one and it became quite a challenge to run the company properly while raising a young family.  Recently, they decided it was time to move on and sold the business to one of their long-time employees.

“It was bittersweet letting it go, but we know we made the right decision,” says Honoree.

Even without the business, both Honoree and her husband have plenty of activities and commitments to keep them busy at all times.

“Thomas is a full-time college student, a medic in the New Jersey National Guard, a NCAA soccer official, a USCG licensed captain who has worked in the parasail industry for over 20 years, and is most importantly, a great dad,” says Honoree.  “My number one job is the kids.  When we had the parasail business, I spent a lot of time doing paperwork so it’s very nice to have that off my shoulders and just be able to focus on the family.  I homeschool our children and though I’m far from being the ideal teacher, I truly love it and the rewards that come from it.  I find out about many activities for homeschooled children through the Shore Homeschoolers group that I recently became a part of.  I’m also the Primary President at my church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.   I oversee the Sunday schedule for those children who are 18 months through 11-years-old.  We occasionally plan activities that benefit the youth and the community as well.”

Your Child Today recently had the pleasure of speaking to the Brown Family and this is what they had to say:

YCT: Tell us a little about your family and the personalities of each of your children.

Honoree:  We have four children: Kailyn (7), Cash (5), Nixon (3) and Schatzi (6 months).  Kailyn is our wild child.  She’s all about fun but is an awesome big sister and a great helper to me.  She loves to swim, play outside, and make crafts.  Cash is a little more reserved.  He loves to fish, play basketball, ride his scooter and help me cook.  Nixon is our silly one.  He enjoys Legos, watching “Tom and Jerry” on television, and loving his baby sister. He also loves any and all things superhero.  Schatzi loves to be hugged and kissed and she’s great at just being a sweet baby.  They are all really terrific kids.  They help with many of the chores around the house, such as cooking, folding laundry, unloading the dishwasher, vacuuming, washing windows, feeding the chickens, and cleaning their rooms.

YCT: What is an average day like in your house?

Honoree:   Things are pretty laid back at our house.  We get up and around 7:30 am and have breakfast.  Since we homeschool, we don’t have the burden of a tight schedule which is very nice.  Next, we usually do a quick clean-up before starting our learning.  Most days we can finish our learning by lunchtime.  That leaves the rest of the day for family time and field trips to the library, museum, park, aquarium, or other fun, learning activities.  In October, the kids will be starting a homeschool gym class at Good Sports in Wall.  They all love to swim as well, so we’ll probably be visiting the Toms River YMCA frequently this winter for their homeschool open swim on Wednesdays.  There is no set schedule at our house which leaves us the freedom to learn and do what we want, when we want.

YCT: What activities do your children participate in after school?

Honoree: “After school” my kids love to play outside.  They ride bikes, play with the chickens, shoot some hoops and continue work on digging their “hole to China” in our backyard.  Last winter, my oldest daughter was in a gymnastics class at The Little Gym in Manasquan and she also played on a B.T.S.A. team.  This winter, Cash will be playing basketball through the Point Pleasant Borough Department of Recreation and Kailyn is signed up for the “Mad Science” class they’re offering.

YCT: What is your favorite thing to do locally with your family?

Honoree: With my husband’s busy schedule, we don’t get a whole lot of family leisure time so we turn necessary outings into fun family time.  For example, like going to the grocery store, shopping for clothes, or dining out.  I know, it doesn’t sound very glamorous, but we truly enjoy whatever time we have together.   In the winter, we might go see a movie, go bowling, or go to a festival or parade.  We love to eat out and have found some great restaurants that serve awesome food and are very family friendly.  Some of our favorites are The Hickory Hog in Point Pleasant for their amazing dry rub baby back ribs, IKKO in Brick for their delicious and very entertaining hibachi, and Napoli Pizza, also located in Brick, for the best plain pie I’ve ever tasted.

YCT:  Do you have any favorite local vacation spots?

Honoree:  One of our favorite local “vacation” spots is the river beach located on the Manasquan River where River Avenue dead ends. As soon as the weather warms up and until it’s just too cold to bare it, we try to go as much as we can.  I love that for one dollar, I can take all four of my kids to play in the sand and the water, with a lifeguard on duty, and not have to worry about a heavy current carrying them away.  They always bring a bucket to catch crabs, fish, jellyfish and whatever other sea creatures may be hanging out that day.  There’s a playground and always lots of kids to play with.  Both my boys learned to swim there.  The kids also love feeding the animals at Atlantic Farms in Manasquan and this summer we went to Raceway Park in Englishtown to see the monster truck show featuring Robosaurus.  We’ll definitely be going again.  They had a blast and it was completely worth the price.  Of course, parasailing is always a hit and it’s something the whole family can enjoy.  The crew at Point Pleasant Parasail is friendly, professional, and loves to show the kids a good time.

YCT: Have you ever gone on any vacations without the kids and where?

Honoree:   The closest my husband and I have come to a vacation without our kids was staying one night at the Ocean Place Resort in Long Branch last winter which was courtesy of some very kind friends.  My husband had just finished basic training in Georgia and was able to come home for two weeks before he started his advanced training in Texas.  It was such a treat to just hang out in our room, order room service and sleep in as long as we wished.  Oh, how I could use another one night getaway like that!

YCT: What is your favorite date night location and how often do you get to go out alone with your husband?

Honoree:  We haven’t been out in a while.  Ideally, I would love to go on a date with my husband once a week.  In reality, it happens about once every six months.  Man that sounds terrible!  When we do make it out alone, we love to try a restaurant we’ve never been to.  I often ask friends what their favorite places are.  We love sushi because it reminds us of our first date, so we’ll often hit up the sushi bar at IKKO in Brick, one of our favorites.  We recently tried Spano’s in Point Pleasant Beach for the first time.  It was amazing and we can’t wait to go back.  I’m also looking forward to trying The Coal House in Point Pleasant Beach as I’ve been hearing great things about it.

YCT: What is your favorite non-mommy thing to do and how often for you get to do it?

Honoree:   My favorite non-mommy thing to do is nap which doesn’t happen very often so my second favorite non-mommy thing to do is hang out with my friends.  Every once in a while we get together to play BUNCO or go out for a kid-free dinner.  I also love to do things I don’t get to do very often, like shop.  I enjoy the Brook 35 Plaza in Sea Girt or go to the salon to get pampered.  My favorite is Salon du Monde in Point Pleasant Beach.  It’s always all about the kids or my husband so it feels great to do something just for me, to revitalize. My husband and I love to have friends over for dinner, too.  It allows me to cook a yummy meal, which is something I love and spend some time engaging in quality, adult conversation.  With four kids in the house every day, this is something I need!

YCT: What is your husband’s favorite non-Daddy thing to do?

Honoree:  My husband’s favorite non-daddy things to do are play golf and referee soccer.  I would have said taking a nap, but I think that’s a normal daddy thing to do, right?

YCT: Do you frequent any advertisers from our magazine?

Honoree:   We love Jersey Shore Pirates.  Kailyn had her 6th birthday party with them and it was great.  They’re so friendly and professional and it’s nice, as a parent, to be able to just sit back and relax and enjoy the boat ride while the kids are entertained by the amazing crew.  I’ve also taken Kailyn into Sparkle Diva a couple times.  Once for a birthday party, which was so much fun for all the little girls, and on another occasion to get a haircut.  She loved being treated like a princess.  We went to a birthday party at Bounce U one time and the kids have been begging to go back.

YCT: Do you have any parenting advice that you would like to offer our readers?

Honoree:   Patience, patience, patience!  And give your children confidence.  They’ll need all they can get to make wise choices in a complicated world.  I would hate to think that one of my children might be too scared to make the right choice.

YCT:  What is your favorite part of Your Child Today magazine?

Honoree:  With four kiddies at home with me, pretty much twenty four hours a day, it’s nice to find out what this area has to offer so we can get out and have some fun…and I can get a break.  Thank you, Your Child Today!

By Tricia Berwick

In a few weeks, school doors will open for another academic year and kids will be busy with homework assignments and extra-curricular activities.  Some children will resume interests from the previous year and others will find new outlets to channel their creativity or athleticism.  If your child has expressed an interest in participating in either dance or gymnastics classes, it’s important to research the best facilities and to talk to your child about the responsibility involved.  At first, it may seem very exciting to wear pretty pink tutus and form-fitting leotards, but how do you know for sure that these activities will benefit your kids?   Enrolling in one of these schools is a huge commitment of your time as weekly classes are usually required from September through June.  And, it has to be financially feasible for your family since all schools require registration fees, monthly payments, and additional costs for shows or recitals.  However, if your child has a sincere interest in one of these activities and you can manage the money and get your child there every week, area parents and school directors say signing up for dance or gymnastics lessons is worth every penny and the time spent in the car shuttling the kids to and from lessons.

If you feel that your child is ready for this type of challenge, it’s imperative to research and choose a facility to meet the needs of your individual child.   When beginning a search, there are a few important factors to consider.

First, spend a lot of time asking questions about the backgrounds of the teaching staff.   Don’t hesitate to meet with the director and ask to see the credentials and the certifications of the teaching staff.   For example, if you are researching a ballet school, take note if the instructors have danced with a professional ballet company or hold a degree in dance from an accredited college or university.  Class size should also be considered.  Make sure the classes are not too large so your child doesn’t feel lost in the shuffle.  You want your child to receive adequate attention during lessons.  Also, be sure to familiarize yourself with each school’s rules, procedures, and payment plans before your registration forms are completed.

One of the best way s to decide if the school is the right fit for your family is to visit several classes.  Ask if you can attend a free trial class to help determine whether or not you would like to become a part of that particular school.  Keep notes while you visit each school and then compare and contrast your results.  It’s important to go with your instincts and register for a school where you and your child feel comfortable with the staff and the curriculum.

If you’re hesitant about whether or not to sign on the dotted line, don’t be because many children enjoy numerous positive benefits from one of these activities.

In addition to being a fun activity, dancing is a fantastic way for people to get in and stay in shape.  It is an effective form of exercise and allows a child to learn self-expression though music and movement.   It also increases an individual’s flexibility and endurance, builds strength, and creates opportunities to meet people.  Dancing also helps to reduce stress and tension and provides and overall sense of well being.

Chrissy Starr, owner of Shore Ballet in Toms River, says studying ballet can provide your children with an invaluable experience.

“All kids gain from the arts,” says Starr.  “It teaches them discipline and exposes them to music.  Everyone is fitness consciousness these days.  The kids are engaging in an activity and not just watching television.”

Mother Tracy Seitz agrees.  Ballet has kept her daughter, Paige busy and happy since she was three-years-old.   Paige just performed in her fourth recital this past June and has loved every minute of her Shore Ballet experience.

“I love how dance keeps my daughter active,” says Seitz.  “She really enjoys the social aspect, also and has made some great friends through classes.  The recital at the end of the year provides the children with a goal which is a terrific way to build confidence.  It’s very satisfying to work towards a goal over a period of time.  I hope she continues to dance for a long time because I think it will provide her with a nice foundation for other things that she might want to pursue later in life, like trying out for the school play.”

Janel McAteer, mother of five-year-old Julianna, strongly believes that dance can build strong social skills and improve one’s self esteem.

“My daughter always has tons of fun when she attends dance classes,” says McAteer.  “She goes with some friends and always meets new kids, too.  I think it’s very important for her to be a part of a routine and to gain experience listening to instructors and following directions.  I’m really happy that she enjoys it so much.  As long as she loves it and enjoys what she is doing, I will continue to register her for classes.”

Similar to dance classes, gymnastics classes promote fitness and help to develop coordination, flexibility, strength, and self esteem.  It also teaches the importance of discipline and hard work and provides important skills to enhance other sports.

Before you make a commitment this fall, research the facility online, ask for referrals from other parents and drop in to visit a ballet school or gym without an appointment to see how their classes are run.  They should have a friendly, open-door policy and be able to answer all of your questions in person.  Ask about the instructors, the class sizes, and the cleanliness of the school.  Also ask your child to come with you.  If he or she is welcomed by the staff and feels immediately comfortable, then you just may have found the right place.

Thinking of a fun affordable activity for your child this fall? Then you should consider the Shore Ballet School. Approaching their 35th season, the most recommended dance school in the Toms River area is dedicated to the highest quality of instruction. With a great curriculum arranged specifically for boys and girls of every age group, their programs are rated #1 by parents and students alike.

This season Shore Ballet will be offering a variety of styles such as Tap, Lyrical, Broadway, Hip Hop and Tumbling. In all classes teachers focus on technique, choreography and having fun. Parents love their stellar curriculum, convenient class schedules and reasonable prices. Shore Ballet is known as a non-competitive school. That means, students won’t be asked to sign up for extra practice workshops or dance competitions. At Shore Ballet all the magic happens each week right at the studio!

Chrissy Starr is the owner/director of the school and she is dedicated to making sure the school is a positive place. She is a certified dance instructor and her teacher training began in London, England where she graduated from the prestigious Royal Ballet School.  It was there that she completed a professional dance teacher’s training program that concentrated on the fundamental teaching of classical dance. Upon retuning to the U.S. she continued her studies obtaining more teaching certifications while still performing in ballets and theater productions. Now as a respected member of the Royal Academy of Dance for more than 18 years, Ms. Starr holds the R.A.D. teaching certificate with Distinction. She is also a long time member of the American Academy of Ballet and holds certifications from the Imperial Society of Teachers of Dancing.

Shore Ballet is just minutes off Rt. 37 E. in Toms River near Vaughn and West End Avenues. The building was once St. Philip’s Episcopal Church built in 1880, and is listed on the State and National Register of Historic places. Still containing the seven original stained glass windows, the dance room itself is a spacious 56×30 feet with chestnut paneling and a small stage that once served as an alter. The dance room also has a vaulted ceiling, Harlequin dance floor, heat/air conditioning and a viewing window for parents to watch the dancers. The waiting area is comfortable with two bathrooms and baby changing facilities.

Shore Ballet classes are limited in size and parents are always pleased with the personal attention their children receive. Ms. Starr is dedicated to her art and she loves seeing her students grow one dance step at a time. Register today it’s fun & affordable! Shore Ballet offers sibling discounts and payment plans. Compare our prices. Major credit cards accepted. Sign up before classes are full!

Call: 732-270-1110 or E-mail: director@shoreballet.com. Visit our new website: www.shoreballet.com

Whether it’s to play in the surf, build a sandcastle, take a dip in the pool, have a bite to eat, or indulge in a relaxing massage, the best thing about Atlantis Resort in Paradise Island, the Bahamas is that all of these things can be done right on the hotel’s unique ocean-themed property.  For those traveling with kids, this is a tremendous advantage as parents don’t have to worry about packing up the little ones and driving to the beach or other activities.  Once the family wakes up and is ready to start the day, everything is right outside the hotel room.

Shari O’Connor has enjoyed a number of vacations at the Paradise Island destination and is looking forward to a trip this year with her children.

“Atlantis is just an awesome place to vacation,” says O’Connor.   “I have been there at least 20 times but our trip in May will be the first time with the kids.  The best thing is that there is plenty to do for everyone.  Atlantis has great pools for all ages and really terrific beaches, too.  They have the aquariums and lots of things for kids which we will experience in May.   Also, it’s a relatively short plane ride from New Jersey which is extremely helpful when traveling with kids.  If parents can handle the flight to Disney World in Florida, they can make it to the Bahamas since it is a comparable trip.    My husband and I are really looking forward to our trip to Atlantis with our three-year-old triplets.”

Before your family makes a reservation this year like the O’Connors, it’s important to thoroughly research the resort’s accommodations and decide which type of room would work best.  The Cove Atlantis offers contemporary suites while the Royal Towers is situated in the middle of all the action and Coral and Beach Towers are situated in a relaxing and tropical setting.  The Reef Atlantis offers many of the comforts of home in spacious studios and one-bedroom suites.  Having additional living space may be more suitable for larger families.

Another factor to consider is whether or not to purchase one of the hotel’s two dining plans.  Your family can choose from the Value Dining Plan which is $50 per day for adults and $25 per day per child (ages 7-11).  This plan offers a full American or continental breakfast and dinner daily at Seagrapes, Marketplace, or Virgil’s Barbeque which opens in July.  Guests can enjoy a choice of appetizer, entrée, and dessert for dinner.   The Atlantis Dining Plan is more expensive but offers a wider selection of dining choices.  This plan is $95 a day for adults and $35 a day for children.  The Atlantis Dining plan offers a full American or continental breakfast at Voyagers, Seagrapes, Murray’s Delicatessen, Plato’s, Marketplace, Virgils BBQ* (Opens on July 1, 2011), Mosaic or The Pointe Restaurant & Bar and dinner daily in Seagrapes, Bahamian Club, Casa D’Angelo, Chop Stix, Marina Pizzeria, Bimini Road, Carmine’s, Murray’s Delicatessen, Atlas Bar & Grill, Marketplace, Virgils BBQ, Mesa Grill, Mosaic or The Pointe Restaurant & Bar.  Dinner includes a choice of one appetizer, entrée and dessert. Children ages 6 and under eat free.  It’s important to note that meal plans cannot be purchased on the Island, so all reservations must be made prior to arrival.

Lisa Tozzi spent five days at Atlantis over the summer with her husband, two kids, and parents.  They purchased one of the dining plans before the trip and found it be well worth the money.

“Buying the dining plan was very helpful,” says Tozzi.  “It seemed expensive at first, but it was cost effective in the long run.  We enjoyed a full breakfast buffet at many of the resort’s restaurants and dinner in the evenings.  The dinner was an appetizer, entree and dessert and a non-alcoholic beverage for both adults and kids.  The breakfast buffets were phenomenal as were the dining choices.  Like any resort, alcoholic drinks were fairly expensive as was food a la carte at both the casual dining places and the take-out concessions by the pools and restaurants.”

Allison Vogel and her family also purchased one of the meal plans which they would highly recommend to other guests, as well.

“We purchased the meal plan which was worth it to us,” says Vogel.  “It included breakfast, a snack and dinner.  The breakfast buffet was huge and we ate later in the morning so that we really didn’t need lunch.”

As those with kids know, children are always thirsty and hungry, so Vogel says it’s a good idea to have some additional drinks and snacks handy throughout the day.

“Just remember, that everything you buy there is very expensive, so pack as much water, snacks, and sunscreen that you need and then some,” says Vogel. “Another tip is to bring cups with lids for the kids to the breakfast buffet.  They can fill them up there and then have adrink later in the day.   If possible, pack a soft cooler that can fold up in your suitcase for the trip and fill it with ice and drinks for the day.”

After a restful night of sleep and a bountiful breakfast, the next item on the agenda is to decide how your family will spend the day since there are countless activities and things to do.

One of the most popular attractions is the resort’s Aquaventure Water Park which is a unique 141-acre waterscape.  It is available to every guest of the Atlantis Resort.  The water-park features thrilling water slides, a mile-long river ride with rolling rapids and wave surges, 20 swimming areas, a water-play fort made especially with kids in mind, and 11 different pools.  This sprawling water area uses over 20 million gallons of water.

Lisa Tozzi’s two children thoroughly enjoyed every aspect of Aquaventure which is one of the largest water parks in the Eastern Hemisphere.

“There were two lazy rivers, and lots of water slides, some of which were more appropriate for older kids and adults,” says Tozzi.  “The kids spent a lot of time playing in the water-play fort since it offered a lot for them to do.  In addition to this play area just for kids, there were also other mini-water slides throughout the resort.  The kids also really enjoyed seeing many live animals in various pools throughout the resort.  One pool was full of sea turtles and another with stingrays and sharks.  Each pool had designated feeding times which was fun for the kids to see.  Since Atlantis offers so many activities and things to do, I found the daily “activity list” which was in our hotel room every day to be extremely helpful.   This way I knew exactly where things were being held and the specific times for each activity such as arts and crafts, feeding of marine life, or cooking classes.”

Vogel’s children also enjoyed the resort’s water-based activities, but she could see parents of really small children having a problem with some of the water rides.

“They were very strict about height requirements,” says Vogel.  “The lazy river was not lazy.  It was more like white water rafting on a tube.  They did have a pool and a slide area for children 48 inches and under but I think it is a vacation that you would enjoy most with school age children.”

In addition to the Aquaventure Water Park, there are countless water adventures for your family to choose from.  The snorkel excursions take place aboard a 45-foot catamaran and are two and a half hours long.  Guests will learn from an Atlantis Aquarist about coral reefs and fish.  The Bahamas is also a great place to scuba dive.  For over ten years, it has been named “Best Place to Dive with Big Animals.”  This is for certified divers who want to explore walls, reefs, and wrecks.  Snuba is also offered which is a terrific way to experience the undersea marine life without being scuba certified.

If your family is really looking to enjoy a different type of water activity, check out Dolphin Cay which is situated on 14 acres and uses 6.6 million gallons of crystal clear seawater.  It is one of the largest and most sophisticated marine habitats and dolphin rescue-rehabilitation facilities anywhere in the world.  In this attraction, vacationers have the unique opportunity to swim with dolphins.  Guests are provided with all-day access to Dolphin Cay’s private beach.  Wet suits and lockers are provided and souvenir photos of your experience are available for purchase.  Guests can wade in waist-deep waters for an up-close experience with the dolphins or they can take part in a deep water swim which allows participants to snorkel and glide alongside a dolphin with your very own water scooter.  Tozzi’s family found this part of the vacation to be extremely exciting and memorable.

“Dolphin Cay was a wonderful experience for my family,” says Tozzi.  “We were ‘suited up’ in short wetsuits which the resort provided so we could all get into the tanks and swim with the dolphins.  My kids absolutely loved it.”

There’s also ’ The Dig which features habitats for 100 venomous Indo-Pacific Ocean Lionfish, 500 piranhas, iridescent jellyfish and six-foot Moray Eels.  Your family can take an exciting journey through the streets and tunnels of the lost city of Atlantis while viewing marine life exhibits.  There is also an interactive touch tank aquarium, filled with conch, starfish, sea urchins, sea cucumbers, crabs and horseshoe crabs.

Tozzi’s family enjoyed this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

“A big attraction is their ‘Dig’ which is an underground Mayan dig ground,” says Tozzi. “We walked through and saw gigantic underground tanks with thousands of sea animals, stingrays, sharks, turtles, and exotic fish.  We were able to visit a touch tank to touch sea urchins and starfish which the kids really liked.”

All of the activities are a lot fun and will definitely keep your family busy throughout the day, but don’t forget to spend some time just relaxing on the sand, too. There are three beautiful beaches available to guests of Atlantis, Paradise Island.  Seven-acre Paradise Lagoon offers snorkeling, paddle boats, and other water sports in a protected environment which is great for those with kids.

Lisa Tozzi made it a priority to enjoy the white sandy beaches for part of the trip.

“Of course, we spent a lot of time on the beach where the water was so blue, clean and calm,” says Tozzi.  “The beaches were just beautiful.”

After the sun sets each evening, there are various ways to relax and enjoy the nightlife.  Atlantis has over 40 restaurants, bars and lounges, a comedy club, theatre, nightclub, and casino.  There are even options for families.  Kids can enjoy a few arcade games at Gamer’s Reef or build a stuffed animal from scratch at Atlantis Pals.  The Earth and Fire Pottery Studio offers kids a chance to explore their creative sides.  There is also the Atlantis Kids Adventures program, Club Rush for pre-teens and a brand new nightclub, CRUSH, just for teens.

Whether you are soaking in the sun or splashing in the surf, there are many ways to spend your time at Atlantis, Paradise Island.  In addition to the many amenities the resort offers, it’s also a short flight from the Jersey Shore which makes it a very desirable vacation destination for area families.

Tozzi’s family had an early morning flight which enabled them to kick off their shoes and relax around lunchtime.

“Continental Airlines offered a direct flight to Nassau from Newark Liberty International Airport early in the morning when we traveled,” says Tozzi.  “This was great because it gave us a good portion of the day to enjoy the beach and the resort.  The flight was a little under three hours, which is just slightly longer than going to Disney World.  Overall we gave the resort a high rating since there was so much to see and do.  There were many other families vacationing at the resort, too.  In fact, we even bumped into a family we knew from back home!”

For more information or to make a reservation, visit atlantis.com.  The website provides comprehensive information about special events and packages.  You can also view photos and videos of the resort, browse through maps, or see the current weather.  Or call 1-800-atlantis for additional information or reservations.

Noteworthy Events for 2011 at Atlantis, Paradise Island:

1.)   CRUSH, the ultimate nightclub for teens ages 13 to 17 vacationing on Paradise Island, will be having their grand opening January 1, 2011. CRUSH is a 14,000 square-foot space that boasts an Internet Lounge—complete with multi-touch computers and surface tables with photo editing and publishing interfaced to Facebook, a Gaming Room stocked with state-of-the-art technology ranging from the new Microsoft flagship motion sensor product Kinect for Xbox 360 to a floor-to-ceiling gaming tree with 24 gaming consoles, ten private gaming cabanas, and even a selection of iPads for internet browsing. Multi-purpose video walls decorate the Dance Club’s VIP sections and a live DJ is accessible via a touch screen song request system. There’s also a bar serving non-alcoholic drinks and the CRUSH Café serves up snacks, from pizzas to smoothies to ice cream and more.

2.)   Rock and Roll Fantasy Camp, President’s Day Weekend, February 17-20, 2011.  Adult rockers will be mentored by world-renowned music rock star “counselors” including Tommy Lee, solo artist and founding member of the metal band Mötley Crüe, Ace Frehley, an original member of the rock band Kiss and Lita Ford, formerly the lead guitarist/singer of The Runaways.  A special “Young Rockers” program for teens aged 12-16 is also available.  Campers will write and record original music, participate in jam sessions and rehearsals and conclude the weekend with a finale concert where the rock-legends will perform live on stage with each camper’s band.

3.)   Atlantis Kids Adventures is now available at the resort.  Resort guests ages 3-12 are able to choose their own adventure at AKA, with staff Adventure Guides available to help with culinary lessons, interactive electronic art, theater and outdoor play.  All of the activities are customized to each child’s own personal interests.  The 8,000 square-foot area features interactive touch-screen walls, tables and floors.  Projections on the walls and floors feature schools of fish and other creatures that follow fingers and swim away from the touch of hands; lizards may chase their feet across the floor or beach balls may bounce around them.  Children, also known as Adventurers, are matched with an Adventure Guide for their day of exploration at AKA, which features themed spaces designed specifically for children’s imagination and enjoyment.  Some of the activities include: a culinary kitchen, game room, Wizardology reading room, fully stocked “grocery store”,computer area, performance area, and a LEGO construction area.  Adventurers can send a postcard with a personalized message and picture directly from their table to their grandparents, teachers and friends at home.  The fully stocked crafts area provides a variety of tactile painting, drawing, designing and decorating activities.  AKA has also employed modern technology for the safety and security of all young guests.  Upon arrival at the club, parents electronically register their children, at which time a digital picture of each is taken.  The child is outfitted with a coded bracelet and when parents return, AKA Adventurers are able to locate their child immediately using a Radio Frequency Identification system which pinpoints exactly which area of the club they are currently exploring.   Partial and full-day participation at AKA is available, as well as special evening programs, including Candy Carnival and Buccaneer’s Bash themed nights.  Prices for AKA programming range from $45 to $65 per session.  For more information about Atlantis Kids Adventures, or to make a reservation for Atlantis, Paradise Island, please call 1-800-ATLANTIS or visit atlantis.com.

by Trcia Berwick

The holidays are here and it’s time to fill your family’s calendar with lots of fun and festive events here in the New Jersey area.  Look through this list, plan a few outings and get into the holly jolly spirit with your little ones.

1.)   Winnie the Pooh Christmas Carol at Monmouth University—Sunday, December 6, 2009 at 2 p.m. Monday, December 7, 2009 at 10:30 a.m. This affordable, family-friendly show is a great way to expose your children to live theatre in an intimate setting.  The Pollak Theatre is not overwhelming in size which makes it the perfect place to bring very small children.  We took our girls when they were two-years-old and they were mesmerized by Winnie the Pooh and all of his friends from the Hundred Acre Woods.  The shows are scheduled to run the first weekend of December.

2.)   Manasquan Chamber of Commerce— All of the holiday events will take place in the business district on Main Street.  Walking through the streets of downtown Manasquan with all of the storefronts decorated for the holidays really gets you into the Christmas spirit.  Of course, it’s not New York City, but it’s a lot closer and less congested, too.  For those with very young children, spending the day in Manasquan during the month of December is a great way to enjoy the season without dealing with large crowds.

3.)   Downtown Red Bank-–There are many holiday happenings to choose from in Reed Bank this year.  If your family enjoys gingerbread houses, take the family for a stroll through the business district for the Red Bank Gingerbread Walk through December 22.  There will be many professionally decorated gingerbread creations in the windows of participating businesses.  The town will also have Classic Horse and Carriage Rides on Saturdays in December.  The rides will be held from 1-5 PM.  Guests can get a ride from the Bridge Avenue location (across from The Galleria) and 26 Broad Street which is outside Murphy Style Grill.  This is a free event.  My husband and daughters took this ride last year and they thoroughly enjoyed the experience.  We cuddled up underneath a blanket and listened to the holiday tunes as we traveled throughout the streets of Red Bank.  The kids also loved waving to all of the people as they passed by; they thought they were celebrities!  This is one event not to be missed!  Pictures with Santa are also available at The Galleria (2 Bridge Ave.) from 12-4 PM.  For more information, visit www.thegalleriaredbank.com.

4.) Smithville—This charming shopping village is located in the southern part of the state, not far from Atlantic City.  Every weekend in December will feature a Christmas train ride throughout the village, a magical talking tree to delight the children, and story time with Mrs. Claus in her Christmas cottage from 1:30-4:30 PM.  Not to be missed is the “Light Show on the Lake” which will be from 5:30-8:30 PM every Thursday-Sunday through January 2.  100 Christmas trees will magically float on Lake Meone while guests listen to holiday music.  My family usually makes an annual fall trip to Smithville, but this year we are going to take a ride down the parkway during the Christmas season.  We are looking forward to seeing all of the lights floating on the lake.  For more information, visit www.smithvillenj.com.

5.) Allaire Village—Allaire Village will present the classic tale “A Christmas Carol” on December 10 and 17.  There will also be Holiday Lantern Tours held on December 11 and 18.  The popular candlelight tours offer visitors a look at the historic village at night as authentically-clad museum interpreters lead groups through the lantern-lit streets of the village decorated for the Christmas season.  Santa Claus will also be available for train rides on Saturdays and Sundays throughout the month of December.  Kids and family members can ride the train for $5 which is a great bargain.  The train runs every half hour.  My family and I have taken this Santa train ride the last two years and it was definitely an enjoyable experience for everyone.  What’s great is that Santa really takes the time to speak with each of the children and ask them what they would like for Christmas.  For more information, visit www.allairevillage.org.

6.) Storybook Land—Located in Egg Harbor Township, this amusement park offers lots of rides and attractions.  During the month of December, the park is turned into a winter wonderland with Santa and Mrs. Claus available to meet and greet your little ones.  After the sun sets, the theme of the park is “Fantasy with Lights.”  This beautiful outdoor display is Southern New Jersey’s Christmas tradition.  For more information, visit www.storybookland.com.

7.) Ocean Grove—On December 11, check out the Ocean Grove Victorian Holiday Festival House and Inn Tour.  This is a special two day holiday event of houses and inns around Ocean Grove.  For more information, call 732-774-1391.

8.) Scrooge in Spring Lake—This classic Christmas tale tells the story of Ebenezer Scrooge.  The show goes on at The Spring Lake Theatre on Madison Avenue in Spring Lake.  Performances are scheduled for December 11 at 2:00 and 8:00 PM.  For more information, please call 732-449-4530. 

9.) First Night in Ocean County at Seaside Heights—Start the new year off right with a big celebration on Friday, December 31 from 12-5 PM.  This is a great way for families to ring in 2011 together in a safe and family-friendly atmosphere.  Local businesses will line the boardwalk with lots of fames, crafts, and activities.  As an added bonus, there will be fireworks at dusk.

Before your holiday calendar fills up, take the time to plan one or two of these activities which may become annual traditions in your family.

By Tricia Berwick

If you and your family are thinking about visiting New York City this year for the holiday season, there are certain stops along the way that are not to be missed.

1.) The Radio City Christmas Spectacular—For over 75 years, this classic American holiday show has been entertaining audiences in the heart of New York City.  The Christmas show includes the world-famous Radio City Rockettes and a cast and crew of hundreds.  The show features a Living Nativity with live animals, a surprising indoor snowfall, fireworks, and Santa Claus flying high above the audience.  In addition, there is also a 3D movie which is one of the highlights of the Christmas Spectacular.  Santa and the Rockettes take the audience on a thrilling ride visiting New York City landmarks before arriving at Radio City Music Hall to start the show.  The show runs for ninety minutes and does not include an intermission.  The show is so breathtaking that many people never get up from their seats for the entire performance.  If you would like to order tickets for this year’s show which runs through December 30, call the Christmas Spectacular Hotline at 866-858-0007.

2.) St. Patrick’s Cathedral—Located on Fifth Avenue between 50^th and 51^st Streets in New York City, it is the largest gothic-style Catholic Cathedral in the United States.  As people enjoy the sights and sounds of the holiday throughout the streets of New York, some decide to stop in to say a quick Christmas prayer, attend mass, or light a candle.  For over 125 years, the Cathedral of Saint Patrick has provided a beautiful spiritual place for New Yorkers and tourists and visitors.  In fact, over five and a half million visitors come to the St. Patrick’s to worship and pray each year.  If you time and would like to learn more about the church’s origin and history, arrange to schedule a tour before your visit to New York City.  Tours can be conducted by appointment for groups of ten or more, Monday through Friday around the Mass schedule. For more information about St. Patrick’s Cathedral, visit their website at www.saintpatrickscathedral.org.

3.) FAO Schwarz—For almost 150 years, this company has been creating toys to delight children of all ages.  The world-famous FAO Schwarz Fifth Avenue store is one of the most famous stores in the world.  During the holiday season, many New Yorkers, and tourists from around the globe, line up to daily to see this children’s wonderland.  Upon entering the store, guests will marvel at the Grand Hall which is which is adorned with more that 20,000 computer-controlled colored lights, a giant dance-on piano keyboard (which was featured in the film “Big” with Tom Hanks), and “FAO Schweetz” which is a classic New York candy shop that features hundreds of sweet treats.  In addition, guests can view “The Muppet WhatNot Workshop” which is only available at FAO Schwarz.  Kids will also love the “Styled by Me Barbie” section, the “Middleton Doll Newborn Nursery,” and the “Madame Alexander Doll Factory.”  For more information about the store, call (212) 644-9400 or visit the store’s website at www.fao.com.
4.) Horse and Carriage Rides in Central Park- These rides can be found al year long lined up along Central Park South between Fifth and Sixth Avenues.  It is a terrific way to relax and see the beauty of Central Park, especially during the holiday season. A standard carriage ride through Central Park costs approximately $50, plus tip forthe first 20 minutes.  If you decide to extend your trip, it will cost $20 more for each additional 10 minutes.  Things seen on the tour include:  The Wollman Rink, Pond, Zoo, Sheep Meadow, Mall (statues), Dairy (tourist information center), the Carousel, and the Dakota (where the former Beatle John Lennon lived).  If you would like to see the sights and sounds throughout Central Park, while snuggling up next to your loved one, this is one activity not to be missed and is certainly a holiday treat.  For more information, visit www.centralpark.com.

5.) Wollman Rink—While in Central Park, lace up someskates and hit the ice at Wollman Rink.  As you are twirling around and practicing a few figure eights, enjoy the beautiful New York City skyline which surrounds the skating rink.  For more information about specific hours and rates, call (212) 439-6900 or visit their website at www.wollmanskatingrink.com.

6.) Christmas Tree at Rockefeller Center—The Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree, which is located at 30 Rockefeller Plaza, is a world-wide symbol of the holidays in New York City.  The tree is illuminated by 30,000 environmentally friendly LED lights on five miles of wire.  Sitting atop the Norway Spruce is a Swarovski crystal star.  The tree has provided Christmas cheer for the people of New York for over 75 years.  The tree is lit daily from 5:30 AM to 11:30 PM.   After your family has spent some time gazing at the beautiful Christmas tree, spend some time ice skating at The Ice Skating Rink at Rockefeller Center.  It is truly a magical and memorable experience to skate around the rink while looking up at the majestic tree and the dazzling urban backdrop.   The rink has room for only 150 skaters at a time which makes it an intimate experience.  However, since this is such a popular winter attraction, be prepared to wait awhile before you hit the ice.  If you are interested in ice skating, enter from Fifth Avenue (between 49^th and 50^th Streets).  For more information, call (212) 332-7654.  Before you leave Rockefeller Center, go underground for a quick bite to eat at The Concourse.  This underground city experience offers shops, fine restaurants, and casual places to get light meals.

7.) Chanukah on Ice at Wollman Rink–Come celebrate the Jewish Festival ofLights on Monday, December 6 from 6-9 PM.  Skate to Jewish music, light a giant ice menorah and have Chanukah treats.  For more information, call (212)-864-5010.

8.) Kwanzaa Events–Kwanzaa is an African-American holiday that has been celebrated since the 1960s from December 26th – January 1^st.   On December 26, head to the American Museum of Natural History.  This all-day celebration will honor the seven African-based principles of Kwanzaa with performances of song, dance, and spoken word presented beside an international marketplace.  This year’s event features a traditional “Second Line” parade led by the McCollough Invaders Band; empowering dance performances by Kotchegna Dance Company, Allen Liturgical Dance Ministry, and Gestures Dance Ensemble; and homage to the traditions of African culture performed by the Restoration Dance Theatre Company.  For more information, visit the museum’s website at www.amnh.org.

9.) The New York Botanical Garden—Come check out the Holiday Train Show which is on display through January 9.  Spend time gazing at all of the sights in the illuminated winter wonderland in the Enid A. Haupt Conservatory.  This show offers visitors a chance to see New York City in a completely different way.  There are 140 NYC landmarks along the tracks, including the original Yankee Stadium.  Take some time to check out Gingerbread Adventures in the Everett Children’s Adventure Garden.  Everyone will have a chance to learn about the plants that give gingerbread its distinct flavor and smell.  For information about tickets and hours, please visit their website at www.nybg.org.

10.) Holiday Windows–-No trip to New York City during the holiday season would be complete without some time admiring the beautiful windows in some of the city’s most famous stories.  Macy’s Holiday Window Displays always feature scenes from the classis Christmas movie Miracle on 34^th Street, in addition to other holiday-themed windows.  The Saks Fifth Avenue Holiday Window Displays are very popular with children because they are designed around a seasonal book and feature playful animations.  After you have visited the tree at Rockefeller Center, just head across the street to see the sights at Saks Fifth Avenue.  If you find yourself on Madison Avenue, be sure to check out the stylish windows at Barneys New York Holiday Window Displays.  If you have kids in tow, make sure to stop by the windows at Bloomingdales which are always family-friendly and interactive.

11.) Visiting Santa Claus—If you would like your children to sit on Santa’s lap and tell him all of their Christmas wishes, there’s no better place to see the guy in the red suit, than Macy’s Department Store.  Of course, be prepared to wait a little bit on lines as this is one of the most popular places to see Santa in the city.  In addition to having your child’s picture taken with Santa, your little one can visit Santaland.  While your child is waiting on line to get a picture taken, he or she will love looking at all of the dancing bears, lights, and animated displays.  After a stroll through Santaland, your child has a chance to talk to the big guy himself in his very own cottage.  You can enter Macy’s on 34^th Street at either Broadway or 7^th Avenue.  For more information, visit their website at www.macys.com.