By Jennifer Enright

The third time was the charm for Janice and Patrick Farrell of Manchester Township.  Having met, and briefly dated, twice before deciding to go their separate ways, they did not seem destined to spend their lives together.  Yet when a mutual friend suggested they go on a date several years later, something clicked and they have been together ever since.  They married in 1998, originally settling in Pat’s hometown of North Brunswick before moving to their current home in Manchester in 2002.  “I don’t know why it didn’t work out the first two times we dated.  I guess it just wasn’t the right time,” Janice describes.  “Something was pulling us together, though, because it was my co-worker’s boyfriend, who was also a good friend of Pat’s, who suggested we go out that third time.  It really is a small world – with so many possible connections,” she notes.

The couple were blessed with two daughters, eight-year-old Kiley, and Bailey, age 10.  Rounding out the family is a six-year-old Maltese named Archie.  “He’s a real mama’s dog, the son I never had,” quips Janice, adding that Archie loves to be on Janice’s lap when he’s not delighting the kids by dancing on his back legs.

Janice left her job as a manager at Verizon to stay home when the girls were small.  About two years ago, she found a job as aparaprofessional at Manchester Township Elementary School aiding children with challenges.  “I have the best job in the world.  I make less money than I used to, but I get so much joy from my job and the kids,” she claims.  Pat has worked for the NJ Department of Corrections for the past 11 years.  Since he often has to work on weekends, the family tries to “seize the moment,” says Janice, and spend as much time together as possible.

The active family likes to take spontaneous trips, often to locales complimenting the girls’ school curriculum.  They have traveled to the historic village in Allaire State Park in Farmingdale and Monmouth Battlefield to tie-in with the girls’ studies of colonial times and NJ history.  Since Janice considers herself “directionally challenged”, the advent of GPS has been a boon to the family’s journeys, noting, “I just yell ‘road trip!’ and everyone is ready to go in 15 minutes for a surprise adventure.  In the past, I wouldn’t tell them where we were going in case we got lost, but now we have GPS and sometimes still keep it a secret just so it will be a big surprise when we get there.”

YCT: Tell us a little about your family and the personalities of each of your children.

Janice: Bailey is kind and confident, and wants to be a lawyer.  She loves to write and scored advanced proficient on her NJAsk Language Arts test last year.  She often writes about our road trips in her journal.  A very serious student, she has a really great sense of humor.  Her classmates have even commented on how funny her written stories are.  Kiley, on the other hand, is very different.  She’s very free-spirited, our ‘hippie’ child, and loves nature and being outside – she’d rather climb a tree or ride on her scooter than do her homework.  She wants to be a chef and recently told me she is going to open a five-star restaurant in Paris right under the Eifel Tower!

Patrick is a casual guy, both in the way he dresses, and in his attitude.  A history buff, he loves to watch the History Channel on TV.  He’s very family-oriented and would rather spend his free time with his family than be off by himself.  He can be silly and likes to be the ‘fun dad’, so I sometimes have to reign him and the girls in to get homework and chores done.  I love to laugh and strive to maintain a harmonious balance between work and play.

YCT: What is a typical day like in your home?

Janice: Since I work at the school the girls attend, I usually drive them in.  But because I want them to have their own identities at school, I try not to have too much contact with them once we are all there.  After school, we talk about our days while the girls have a snack and do homework.  Then we’re off to activities or the girls play with friends before we reconnect at dinner time.  Bailey loves to read in her room at bedtime, and I often read with Kiley, since it is not her favorite thing to do!

YCT: What activities do your children participate in after school?

Janice: Their absolute favorite activity is to go to Mathnasium in Toms River.  I was really bad at math as a kid – I actually used to cry because it was so difficult for me.  When Bailey was in third grade, she started to struggle a bit with her math lessons, and I didn’t want her to get frustrated like I had been.  So we signed her up for Mathnasium and she thought it was fantastic.  Kiley saw how much Bailey enjoyed it, and asked to go, too.  They incorporate fun games and activities to teach math concepts.  All the tricks and methods they teach make it easy for the girls to be successful at math, which builds their confidence so much.  Even though facts and figures haven’t changed since I was a kid, the way the concepts are taught is so different that there are times that I really can’t help them with homework.  At school, the kids are in large classes with other students of all different levels of math abilities.  Mathnasium gives them individual attention, geared to their own aptitude – a proven recipe for success!

Bailey has taken Irish stepdancing lessons for the past three years.  She performs in the winter concert in December and the June recital.  This year she is looking forward to participating in some St. Patrick’s Day events.  Kiley has gone to gymnastics for several years.  Since third grade is such a challenging academic year, she is not taking lessons this year, but plans to return to classes next year.  And both girls go to CCD at St. John’s Church in Lakehurst.

Kiley loves to swim in our pool in the summer – she’s such a natural and started swimming when she was just two years old.  But both girls are really looking forward to snow!  Last year they built two snowmen – Snowy and Snowy Jr. – in our yard.  They spent a lot of time sledding at Christ Episcopal Church in Toms River.  We can’t wait to take them snow tubing and skiing in the Poconos this year.

YCT: What is your favorite thing to do locally with your family?

Janice: We love to go to Great Adventure and always get season passes.  The girls are fearless on roller coasters.  They also enjoy thesafari, and their favorite thing is Fright Fest where they watch all the dancers perform spooky routines.  The beach is a favorite spot in the summer.  We often go to Seaside’s Casino Pier and Jenkinson’s Boardwalk and Aquarium in Point Pleasant.  The girls also love to go to Castle Park in Toms River when the weather is nice.

YCT: Do you have any favorite local vacation spots?

Janice: During the summer, the girls attend week-long camps at Ocean County College.  Last summer, Kiley did a CSI detective session and Bailey did a “make your own movie” class.  This summer, Bailey plans to attend a writing workshop.  Summer is a big time for our road trips.  We’ve gone to see Lucy the Elephant in Margate, Ripley’s Believe It or Not Museum in Atlantic City and the Barnegat Lighthouse.  We go to Florida to spend a few weeks every summer with my mother and are really looking forward to planning a European vacation to Ireland and Scotland in 2012.

YCT: Have you ever gone on vacation without the kids?

Janice: We really wouldn’t want to.  We enjoy experiencing new things with our kids and seeing things through their eyes.  It’s so interesting to get their take on things and what it all means to them.

YCT: Do you have a favorite family-friendly restaurant?

Janice: We don’t go out that much, but the Golden Dragon Chinese Restaurant on Route 37 in Toms River and Chevy’s in Brick are our favorites.  And we all love Dairy Queen – Bayville, Tinton Falls, Millstone or Toms River – it doesn’t matter – we will drive for Dairy Queen!

YCT: What is your favorite date night location and how often do you get to go out with just your husband?

Janice: Now that the girls are older, we can get away to the Renault Winery in Egg Harbor or the casinos in Atlantic City for a few hours once in a while.

YCT: What is your favorite non-mommy thing to do and how often do you get to do it?

Janice: Most of my girlfriends are single without children and every couple of months, we will go to dinner and not talk about kids!

YCT: What is your husband¹s favorite non-daddy thing to do?

Janice: He enjoys taking a nice long motorcycle ride towards New Egypt, or going trap-shooting.

YCT: Do you patronize any advertisers from our magazine?

Janice: Besides Mathnasium, Jenkinson’s and the Casino Pier, the girls have gone on the Jersey Shore Pirate Adventure.  We are planning a day at Sparkle Diva and also at Color Me Mine.

YCT: Do you have any parenting advice that you would like to offer our readers?

Janice: My husband would say “you gotta let them be kids” and I would add that it’s so important to spend time with them and hug them.  Especially working with so many kids at school, I can tell you that a little hug can go a long way.

YCT: What is your favorite part of Your Child Today magazine?

Janice: Of course it’s the Calendar of Events.  We are always looking for the next Farrell family adventure!

By Tricia Berwick

It doesn’t matter if they are bike riding in the park, lacing up their skates for a few whirls around the ice or strolling on the boardwalk in Point Pleasant Beach.  What’s most important to the Lopez family of Toms River is spending time together.  Jack, a firefighter and Rhonda, a stay-at-home mom, are busy raising their three children in this suburban, family-oriented community.

The couple met while working together on Wall Street in New York City years ago.  Rhonda, who was born and raised in Ireland, ironically met Jack on St. Patrick’s Day here in America.

“Jack started working at my job on St. Patrick’s Day,” says Rhonda.  “That was definitely a sign that we were meant to be together.”

After they dated for awhile, the couple decided to marry in a civil ceremony in the United States.  Years later, the couple traveled to Ireland with their two children who were three and four years-old at the time and were married in Rhonda’s family church.

“We were married in the same church where I received my sacraments and my parents and grandparents were married,” says Rhonda.  “It was very important to me to have a religious ceremony in the church where I grew up and that meant so much to my family.  My daughter was the flower girl and my son was the ring bearer for the ceremony.  My youngest daughter wasn’t born yet, but we hope to make another trip back in the future so she can experience Ireland, too.”

For now, the family-of-five is busy with work, school, and extra-curricular activities.  With two teenage children, Rhonda spends a lot of time behind the wheel.

“I am basically the family chauffer now!” says Rhonda.

Even though the Lopez family has a pretty hectic schedule, they still make spending time together a priority.  One of their favorite family activities is to vacation in Disney World.

“We all absolutely love Disney,” says Rhonda.  “Disney is our vacation of choice every year.  The two older kids still love it and would go there two or three times per year if we let them.”

Your Child Today recently had the pleasure of getting to know the Lopez family a little more personally.  This is what Rhonda, mom of three children had to say:

YCT: Please tell us a little about your children.

Rhonda: My husband Jack and I have three children.  Caitlin is 14 and a freshman at High School South in Toms River. She loves to dance and takes three different dance classes at Shore Ballet, and assists with her little sister’s dance class, also. She also loves birds! She has a pet parakeet named “Kiwi” who thinks he’s a monkey!  He climbs upside down around the cage and jumps from perch to perch! Caitlin is also very artistic and loves to draw and create, and has always said she wants to be an art teacher when she grows up.  Of course, that may change though as she has shown a great aptitude for science and math as well.   Our son Alex is 13 and is in seventh grade at Intermediate South. He really is a typical boy.  Alex loves the game of football and enjoys rooting for The New York Giants.  He also spends a lot of time playing with his friends in the neighborhood.  He is a first class Boy Scout with Beachwood Troop 114 and aspires to become an Eagle Scout in a few years.  He also loves watching the Military Channel and is a Petty Officer 2nd class (NWS Earle Unit) with the US Naval Sea Cadet program.  He participates in this program one weekend every month with my husband, who is also involved.  Our youngest daughter, Isabella is five-years-old and is in kindergarten at Washington Street Elementary School.  She is enrolled in the afternoon session, so that gives the two of us the mornings to relax and spend a little time together before school.  I enjoy spending this time with her while the older two are in school.  They grow up so fast!  She also loves to dance, especially after watching her big sister for so many years.  This year, she decided to start classes at Shore Ballet.  She absolutely loves ballet and tap.  She recently started taking ice skating lessons and loves that, too.  She’s a friendly, outgoing little girl who likes nothing better than to play with other kids her age.  Thankfully, she has a bunch of cousins born within a year of her and they really enjoy spending time together.  Isabella also likes to play dress up in her princess costumes.  She is quite the girly girl!  She absolutely loves clothes and enjoys wearing dresses to school every day.  She changes outfits at least a few times per day!

YCT: What is a typical day like in your home?

Rhonda: A typical day involves a lot of driving!  Three kids on three different schedules both for school and extra-curricular activities can make for quite a full day! Once they get home from school they have a quick snack.  Then homework gets done while everything is still fresh in their minds, then either dinner or activities, depending on what time classes start that day.  We sit down together as a family for dinner a few times a week, but since my husband is a firefighter, that depends on his schedule.  After a little down time, the kids head to bed and then, finally it’s mom and dad’s turn to watch television and relax.

YCT:  What activities do your children participate in after school?

Rhonda:  Caitlin takes dance classes at Shore Ballet three nights a week and she participates in ice-skating on the weekends.  Alex has Boy Scouts once a week and Sea Cadets for one weekend out of each month.  Isabella takes a ballet/tap combo class at Shore Ballet and also ice-skates on weekends. In the spring we’ll add sports and swimming classes to that.  For now though, it’s manageable having one activity per day between the three kids and still having one night during the week to be activity free.

YCT:  What is your favorite thing to do locally with your family?

Rhonda:   We like to take the bikes to Allaire State Park.  They have a great bike trail and we try to do it as often as possible.  Isabella’s “bike” attaches to my husband’s so she’s never tired out like the rest of us!

YCT:  Do you have any favorite local vacation spots?

Rhonda:  Our favorite spot is Point Pleasant.  The kids love to walk on the boardwalk and then go on all of the rides.  We always make it a priority to get the “2 for 1 Ticket Sale” prices on Easter weekend every year.  Also, we love to go to the Cape May Zoo and Ortley Beach in the evenings when the crowds are gone.

YCT:  Have you ever gone on any vacations without

the kids and where?

Rhonda:  Not really, we’ve probably gone away for three weekends over the last 10 years without the kids. We really enjoy our family vacations and actually feel sort of guilty if we think about doing something without them. We are Disney Vacation Club members and like to take full advantage of that.  We go to Disney World almost every year and we never get tired of going.  We decided a long time ago that since our kids would only be young for a relatively short time, we want to make as many fun memories as possible while they still enjoy vacationing with us.  We hope to travel more together after they have all gone to college!

YCT:  What is your favorite date night location and how often do you get to go out alone with your husband?

Rhonda: While we don’t have date night as often as we’d like, when we do get out we like to go out with friends and have a nice dinner.  We also like to splurge every once in a while on a really good restaurant in Atlantic City.  It is closer than New York City and has some of the most fabulous restaurants in the world!

YCT:  What is your favorite non-mommy thing to do and how often do you get to do it?

Rhonda:  Although they are not regularly scheduled, I think nothing beats a good old-fashioned girls’ night out.  Whether it’s getting dressed up and meeting my sister, my sisters-in-law or friends or even just attending a home sales party where I get to shop and socialize at the same time, I really enjoy getting together with friends and family and leaving the kids home for a few hours!  It’s important to have that time once in awhile.

YCT:  What is your husband’s favorite non-Daddy thing to do?

Rhonda:  My husband likes to get together with his friends to watch a football game, or just hang out. He also really enjoys interacting with the kids in the Sea Cadet Program. He loves to set up training drills and seeing how much they enjoy learning about things like search and rescue, firefighting and first aid. He’s organized some pretty fun drills for the kids and they love it!

YCT:  Do you frequent any advertisers from our magazine?

Rhonda:  Shore Ballet is the best! My oldest daughter went to two other dance schools when she was very young and one was not good at all.  We were not happy with this particular school.   The second school placed too much emphasis on competitions and since my daughter didn’t compete, she was left out of a lot of the routines and just sort of stuck on the end of the line for recitals.  Thankfully, Shore Ballet has been a wonderful fit for us.  The teachers are all professionally trained dancers and my daughter has received a great education in ballet there.  Now she takes tap, jazz and lyrical as well and loves it even more. We get comments all the time on how great her posture is and how she holds herself so well.  When I hear those comments, I say everything is courtesy of ballet!

YCT:  Do you have any parenting advice that you would like to offer our readers?

Rhonda:  I think the best advice I have is to be organized and prepared for anything! My husband says I missed my calling as a Logistics Officer in the military! Also, invest in a slow cooker.  It’s a lifesaver on busy winter evenings! Being born and raised in Ireland, for me nothing tastes better on a cold winter evening than a yummy stew, and one that has been simmering in my slow cooker while I’m acting as the family’s chauffeur all day tastes even better!

YCT:  What is your favorite part of Your Child Today magazine?

Rhonda:  I love the Calendar of Events page and the Party Directory page. I always check out the party websites for new ideas for my kids’ birthday parties and the calendar is a great way to find things to do locally on days when my husband is off from work and we want to do something as a family.

Once the weekend arrives, the Valeo family likes to relax, unwind and spend time together.  After a busy week of school, work, and extra-curricular activities, the Valeos enjoy not being on a schedule for a few days.

“On the weekends, we really like to have a lot of down time,” says mom Heather.  “The weekend is our time to decompress and just hang around the house.  The kids have a lot of fun playing in the backyard together.  We also enjoy playing games or watching television as a family.  The girls also love to bike ride and we live on a cul-de-sac, which works out perfectly. ”

Married for twelve years, Heather and Rich Valeo are raising their three daughters in Toms River.  The couple strongly believes in the importance of spending quality time together as a family.  Whether they are playing together at the park, frolicking in the sand and surf at the beach, or just enjoying the comforts of their home, the Valeos make spending time together a priority.  The family-of-five also enjoys getting together with both sets of grandparents who all live locally.  Having the extended family live nearby offers many benefits to the girls.  In addition to helping out with babysitting, the grandparents are able to pass traditions down that have been in the family for generations.

“Having the girls spend time with their grandparents and learning about family traditions is very important to us,” says Heather.  “We are an Italian family, so every September we make sauce with my husband’s parents and my sister in-law Tamie.  It takes us one day to make 70-100 quarts of sauce.  First, we cut the tomatoes, salt them, and then boil them down.  After they are boiled, we put the tomatoes through a machine until all the seeds are removed.  Then, we boil them again and place the tomatoes into a jar with bay leaves.  It’s a pretty simple process.  It’s a great thing to do because then the entire family can have fresh tomato sauce whenever they want it.  We usually have pasta with the homemade sauce at least once a week.”

Since the girls are still young and the family is fearful about the girls getting too close to the boiling pots, the Valeo sisters usually play in the backyard and observe how the sauce is made.  Next year, they will become more active participants and cook along with the rest of the family.  Even though they haven’t sliced the tomatoes yet, what’s important is spending time with the grandparents and learning about the family’s Italian heritage and culture.

“Rich and I are providing the girls with a very traditional upbringing,” says Heather.  “We are very proud of our family and traditions.  In addition to our sauce-making, every Thanksgiving weekend, we trim the Christmas tree with the grandparents.  We are very fortunate to have both of our parents here to spend the holidays and relish in all the girls’ daily happenings.”

Your Child Today recently had the pleasure of getting to know the Valeo family a little more personally.  This is what Heather, mom of three girls had to say:

YCT: Tell us a little about your children.

Heather: Sophia is nine-years-old and attends North Dover Elementary School.  She cannot wait to go to school every day where she is able to be artistic, express her love of music and is encouraged to pursue her love for books.  Sophia also enjoys the theatre and seeing Broadway shows in New York City.  We take the kids into the city as much as possible to see all of the different productions.  I have always had in interest in the theatre myself, so my children knew the words to Les Miserables just like other children know the Sesame street song.  Isabella is eight-years-old and attends Hooper Avenue Elementary School which the kids call “The Hoop.”  She loves her Daddy, music, arts-and-crafts, her dolls, and SpongeBob.  Going to Color Me Mine is one of Isabella’s favorite activities; she just really has so much fun there.   Bianca is the youngest and is five-years-old.  She attends North Dover Elementary School.  She loves going to kindergarten and seeing her friends.  Her favorite color is pink.  One of her favorite things to do is host tea parties.  Whenever someone comes to the house she immediately will set up a beautiful tea party and entertain her friends and family.

YCT: What is a typical day like in your home?

Heather: Everyone wakes up, has breakfast and then gets dressed for school.  Before the school day begins, the girls always do a few chores before they head out the door.  It could be anything from bringing down the laundry to putting the dirty dishes in the sink.  My husband and I feel very strongly about teaching the girls a sense of responsibility.  Doing chores throughout the house teaches our daughters about respect and how to work together as a family.  I tell them that everything has a place and it is your job to put it back in it this way the girls know what is expected of them.  I have recently become more organized and I think it has had a positive effect on my daughters.

Once the girls get home from school in the afternoon, they have a snack and about a half hour of playtime.  Then, it’s time for homework and any activities that they may have.    However, even with the activities, we are very fortunate to have a family dinner as long as daddy is home, which is very important to us.  Even if my husband is on the phone with a work-related call, the girls will interrupt him and say, “Daddy, it’s family time now.  We are eating dinner as a family.”  After dinner, we will play a game together or watch a program and then it’s time to get ready for bed.

YCT:  What activities do your children participate in after school?

Heather: Sophia participates in gymnastics and takes piano lessons.  Isabella takes swim lessons.  Bianca definitely has an ear for music so she also takes piano and she also takes swim lessons.  We are lucky to have both sets of grandparents nearby, so if one of the girls has an activity and the others don’t, we will have one of the grandparents stay with the kids.  This way, they can be at home, doing homework, or just relaxing.  Even though we love for the girls to be busy, we don’t want the activities to be overwhelming, so we limit the activities to one or two each.

YCT:  What is your favorite thing to do locally with your family?

Heather: We are summer people so we love to take the kids out to eat at Stewart’s.  We have been taking them there since they were babies.  We also like to spend time at Ortley Beach.   The beach is very clean; we see a lot of our friends there- it is a “locals” beach.  The girls have fun getting their nails done with my mom.

YCT:  Do you have any favorite local vacation spots?

Heather: The kids like to visit Barnegat Lighthouse with my husband’s parents, Cape May Zoo is a great day, and we really like Storybook Land.  We usually go to Storybook Land once in the summer and once in the fall for trick-or-treating.  It’s a great open area and everything is in immaculate condition.  There are healthy choices for lunch and a spray area in the summer.   I went there when I was a child, so it’s nice to be able to take my children now.  It’s a family-run business so they take pride in maintaining the property and making every child’s experience enjoyable.

YCT:  Have you ever gone on any vacations without the kids and where?

Heather: We have a vacation home in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina and will go there with and without the kids.  My husband and I try going for a long weekend in the fall which is very relaxing.  I also have had the opportunity to travel abroad with my husband and that was an amazing experience.

YCT:  Do you have a favorite family friendly restaurant?

Heather: We love Nino’s in Toms River.  We go there after church on Saturday evening and the girls always get the coal-fired pizza.
YCT:  What is your favorite date night location and how often do you get to go out alone with your husband?

Heather: Since we are summer people, we love seafood and will try any restaurant where we can enjoy some crab and in the colder months we try to cook together, put the kids to bed early, and hang out.

YCT:  What is your favorite non-mommy thing to do and how often do you get to do it?

Heather: I love spending time at the spa! The Hand and Stone Spa is local and I try and go once a month.  They offer reasonable and professional services and can accommodate my schedule.

YCT:  What is your husband’s favorite non-Daddy thing to do?

Heather: My husband loves to jam on his bass guitar!  He has a group of friends from high school and they get together whenever they can.  Rich is a sports fanatic and can’t get enough football and baseball.  His favorite professional teams are the Dallas Cowboys and the New York Mets.

YCT:  Do you frequent any advertisers from our magazine?

Heather: My children just love Color Me Mine.  It’s a great place to go with the kids because they can be creative and independent, but we can still spend time together as a family.  It’s such a warm and friendly family atmosphere and the staff is always willing to assist the kids with their projects, too.

YCT:  Do you have any parenting advice that you would like to offer our readers?

Heather: The biggest lesson I have learned from a good friend is the importance of being organized.  I have found that the more organized I am, the easier it is for my children.  I will set a routine for the kids and I try not to deviate from it.  It’s very important to
follow through with your plan once it is established. With a routine, the kids are much more successful and feel independent.  As a result, we are a more cohesive and happy family.  Just try to devise an organizational plan that works best for you.

YCT:  What is your favorite part of Your Child Today magazine?

Heather: I love looking at the calendar in Your Child Today.  There are so many local happenings and activities to choose from every month.  It’s a great resource to have because all of the ideas are always fun choices for the entire family.

One could say the Demeter family of Toms River was formed with a little bit of divine intervention.  Mom Janine met her future husband, Andy, when she took her white car for its weekly wash at the establishmentowned by Andy’s family.  After dating for about 18 months, they were married in June of 1994 at the Crystal Point Yacht Club in Point Pleasant.  “You never know where you’re going to meet the love of your life,” Janine quips.  She and Andy spent six years enjoying married life and getting settled, before they were blessed to become parents to son Drew, now 10.  Daughter Ally, age 8, and six-year-old son, Evan, round out this faithful family.

The family is “local to the core,” Janine attests.  Andy grew up in Brick and graduated from Toms River North High School. He works as general manager at Silver Bay Car Wash Express Lube, the business owned by his mother and stepfather, MaryLou and Vince Galati, for 22 years.  Janine says that although Andy’s work days are long, they are so grateful that he has been able to steadily provide for their family during this economic downturn.  Janine was born in Point Pleasant Hospital and raised in Brick, graduating from Brick High School, just as her parents, Allen and Pat Dey, had.  Allen even penned the school’s alma mater song!

Janine’s days are spent not only caring for her family and their home, but also serving as a volunteer for the Parent Teacher Fellowship at Ambassador Christian Academy in Toms River, the Pre-K through eighth grade school that the children all attend.  Janine explains that the academy, also known as ACA, is the only accredited classical Christian school in the area, and that ACA has “educated minds and hearts for over 31 years.”  Janine notes that she and Andy are most thankful for this schooling, as the family is built upon a strong faith in God.  Janine says her foundation as a mom is “faith, family, friends and fun,” and that the entire family is also active in their church, Bethany Bible Chapel on Church Road in Toms River.  Noting that the children are “the best of friends,” Janine adds that they are “fearfully and wonderfully made as unique individuals,” quoting Psalm 139:14.  She claims that the kids “understand we are a family, a unit and a team and work together as a whole.” Because of this philosophy, the family “does pretty much everything together,” noting there will be time for separate teams and activities later in life, but for now, they enjoy being together as much as possible.

YCT: Tell us a little about your family and the personalities of each of your children.

Janine: Drew is a history buff, especially anything having to do with the military.  He studies Latin and Spanish and has received honor grades all four marking periods this year.  He’s known as a great friend to all at school and enjoys participating on the school’s bowling team.  Since being introduced to archery at a Christian sleep-away camp he attends for two weeks every summer, he’s become quite a marksman; we even have a hunter friend give him lessons in the summer.  He’s also passionate about boarding – skateboarding, skimboarding in the ocean, and snowboarding in the winter.  I’d describe Ally as having a gracious heart and lots of friends.  She’s a wonderful blessing to me in this house full of boys.  She’s organized and loves to be in the kitchen with me.  Her favorite subject at school is math, and boy, does she know how to take charge, which is especially helpful on school mornings!  Now Evan is affectionately known as “Hank the Tank,” because he is all-boy and full of energy, energy, energy!  Given instruction and guidance, he can channel that energy to good use and has become a great helper in his full-day kindergarten class, and around our house as well.  If I ask him to weed the garden, he may stay out there for hours!

YCT: What is a typical day like in your home?

Janine: There is no such thing as a typical day in our home!  We are blessed to have a lot of family all here in Ocean County – both sets of grandparents, 13 aunts and uncles and 14 cousins to be exact – so there is always someone coming and going.  We often have people over for dinner or visits.  We try to take things as they come and go, and take life as it comes to us.  In the summer, my big rule is to get the chores done before the fun adventure for the day.  We enjoy the outdoors year round and we are so fortunate to have a large protected stretch of woods that abuts our back yard.  The woods will never be developed and we really take advantage of that for adventures and play time.

YCT: What activities do your children participate in after school?

Janine: After the kids complete their homework, they usually go outside to play and take bike rides.  We live on a small, safe street so the kids can ride their scooters and bikes, and play basketball without worry.  We’re the only family on our street that doesn’t have a dog, so the kids walk the neighbors’ dogs.  They know the names of all the dogs and their humans!

YCT: What is your favorite thing to do locally with your family?

Janine: We often go to Island Beach State Park in Seaside for fun and fishing and where we spot red foxes, instead of the old “yellow cars” game.  We like to go bike riding, especially at Toms River’s Winding River Park or on the Manasquan Bike Path. We also go hiking in Cattus Island Park in Toms River and Bass River State Park in Tuckerton.  For Evan’s sixth birthday in February, we had a hiking party for 17 people through the snow covered trails at Bass River State Park, then hotdogs and s’mores cooked over the fire pit in our backyard.  Last winter, during the snow days off from school, we had a major Olympics party in our back yard – I told all the moms to dress in layers, because we were going to be staying outside through it all!  The past few years we had season passes for Great Adventure and went often.  This year we decided on state park passes, which allows us to bike and hike all the state parks.  I thought this would be especially informative this year, as it will augment Drew’s study of New Jersey as a fourth grader in school this past year.

YCT: Do you have any favorite local vacation spots?

Janine: For the past three summers, we have gone to Pennsylvania for vacation.  We have climbed Bushkill Falls, an amazing waterfall system in the Poconos.  We have canoed the Lehigh Gorge and hiked Boulder Field in Hickory Run State Park.  The trips always conclude with a day at Camelbeach, a water park near our vacation spots.  But the best spot of all is the Jersey Shore.  We are beach bums when given the chance and take advantage of the local attractions like Breakwater Beach in Seaside and Jenkinson’s Aquarium in Point Pleasant.

YCT: Have you ever gone on vacation without the kids?

Janine: Since we’ve become parents, we have taken two trips without the kids.  During the years Andy and I each turned 40, we went away for a few days to relax in the sun & sand.  We are so lucky to have both sets of grandparents here in Toms River, when they are not staying at their other homes in Florida.  Therefore, we were able to go away with peace of mind.

YCT: Do you have a favorite family-friendly restaurant?

Janine: We try to go out about once a week to cost effective restaurants such as Five Guys, TGI Fridays and Friendly’s – all in Toms River.  It’s nice to incorporate a little education in the meal, too.  For instance, Five Guys offers potatoes from different states on a rotating schedule and the kids get a kick out of learning a bit about the state their fries have come from!

YCT: What is your favorite date night location and how often do you get to go out with just your husband?

Janine: Since Andy works such long hours, the kids and I always try to pop in for a car wash or to just visit.  We like to pull him away to dine at Surf Taco in Toms River or bring in a “picnic pizza” so we can eat together.  We feel that we are primarily ‘mom and dad’ to these young children, so we don’t go off alone too often.  However, I’m sure date nights will come back to us at some point.  We often reconnect at the end of the day sharing the day’s activities regarding children or business on our back deck watching the sun set and the moon rise.

YCT: What is your favorite non-mommy thing to do and how often do you get to do it?

Janine: Yay and yes!  I believe all moms should have an abundant amount of “gal friends” to give advice, laugh and cry, and having so many you always find one free when you or she needs it most.  I have an artsy side and when my friend, Karin Killian of 2friends hand-made ribbon, gifts and accessories, asked me to join her at local craft fairs, I jumped at the chance.  Together we attend about 15 outdoor craft venues a year from Long Beach Island to Monmouth County, including the Festival of the Sea in Point Pleasant, Brielle Day and the Toms River Sailfest.  It’s a great opportunity to promote her business, be outdoors and meet new people.

YCT: What is your husband¹s favorite non-daddy thing to do?

Janine: Andy is a different story – his friends all come to him, as he is a steady fixture at the Silver Bay Car Wash.  In his free time, he enjoys spending time in the yard and garden but is never alone as he always has six little helping hands.  He spends lots of time working – this is how our family is balanced right now.

YCT: Do you patronize any advertisers from our magazine?

Janine: Ally has gone to Sparkle Diva and we have celebrated the kids’ birthdays at the Jersey Shore Pirate Adventure and with Gamin’ Ride at our home.  We have had swimming lessons at Pied Piper Swim School. We make a platter once a year at  Color Me Mine and we frequent Bee Mine consignment shop in     Toms River.

YCT: Do you have any parenting advice that you would like to offer our readers?

Janine: Growing up I had a dear family friend named Katherine Mead who was a mother of seven.  She once told me to get up before the kids.  Of course, this was hard when they were babies but since they have been school age, this has become a wonderful habit.  I wake up one half hour before the kids to pray, meditate and be still.  Then I have my morning coffee and am ready for morning hugs and all that the day may bring.  I also think that being flexible and spontaneous works very well for us – to overcome stress and upsets during the day.  For example, sometimes we have a picnic dinner in our own living room, just for a change of pace.

YCT: What is your favorite part of Your Child Today magazine?

Janine: My favorite part is the ‘Focus on the Family’ feature.  I use the ‘Calendar of Events’ section over and over to find great local events for our spontaneous adventures!

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